Children are the greatest gift to humanity.
Today I am going to share an excerpt of Chapter 4 of my book- “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood: How to Create a Loving Relationship with Your Children”.
Available: Amazon and Barnes and Noble as well as Xlibris.
This is just a taste of the chapter!
Chapter Seven
Building Good Self Esteem in Your Child
I Realize
I realize I have a responsibility to provide for you and to make sure that you have all the resources and experiences that you need to be a whole, healthy, happy and confident human being.
Quote:
Sidonie Gruenberg once said:
“To value his own good opinion, a child has to feel that he is a worthwhile person. He has to have confidence in himself as an individual.”
Question:
When I am talking about providing resources for your children, what does that entail?
I can remember my parents saying,” It is our responsibility to give you all of what you need and some of what you want.” I think that this is an excellent rule of thumb in terms of trying to decide what is appropriate for us as parents to do in terms of providing material things for our children. I want to be clear when I say that what our children need before anything else is our unconditional love. Our children need for us to be in a position where we can make good decisions when these decisions affect their lives both directly and indirectly. Sometimes, what might seem to be the most insignificant choice on your part, can turn into something of great magnitude later in the lives of your children. You have to be conscious, diligent, and thoughtful about making decisions. You have the responsibility of providing for your children in not only the material realm, but the spiritual realm as well.
There are expectations on the part of your children to trust you as their parents in providing the most basic needs for them. Their expectations without even voicing it, is to have at the very least the security of:
Love Advocate on their behalf
Respect Shelter
Acceptance Food
Physical closeness Clothing
Emotional support Health and safety
Protection from harm Education
Spiritual guidance
There can be times in our life as a parent that some of these needs might be at risk or neglected. We live such complicated lives that are sometimes are filled with more drama than we can handle. It is a lot of responsibility to be parent.
