What is the Foundation of a Healthy, Happy and Whole Relationship?
Well I had no idea what I was going to write about today, when I checked in with my Facebook account and saw a question that was posed to get engagement on the topic of relationships. I knew immediately that this was something I had to respond to. When things capture the attention of my Spirit in that “certain” way, I know I have no choice. Sometimes I try to avoid it or ignore the feeling that surfaces to the top of my attention, but usually that does not work. So here goes—There are so many things so wrong with this statement on so many levels!
Question was to respond to this statement-
OMHG! No two men and no two women are alike! What works for some people, doesn’t work for others!
Part 1. The Inventory- Of Self
Relationships have the possibility of working, when we first take inventory of our own being, characteristics, values and what makes us feel:
Loved
Appreciated
Respected
Honored
Valued
Happy
Sad
Mad
Frustrated
Satisfied
Motivated
Inspired
Challenged in a good way to grow and evolve
Part 2: The Inventory- For Others
Then we have to take inventory of how we in return make others feel when we respond to their needs and desires. We are not responsible for how they feel but we are responsible for being our highest self, so as to not intentionally do things we know that will hurt or harm to them.
Part 3: The Alignment-
We must align those elements with the person we have chosen to develop a relationship with and that works both ways. The old folks use to say, “ Are you equally yoked?” There in lies the foundation of any healthy relationship! “To thine own self be true”! Why? Because happiness and fulfillment happens internally based in your Spirit, not externally. You are responsible for your own health, happiness and wholeness of life!
In conclusion:
A healthy, happy and wholesome relationship is based on being equally yoked so that the relationship is truly a partnership of mutual love, respect and devotion to the work that will be required throughout the duration of the relationship. Anything of real value is worth the work that is required.
I know there is more to say on this topic, so perhaps I will if, it rises up in my Spirit again.
