I adjoined the two elements – relationships and social contracts in the same arena because ultimately, we are reflecting on “Character Development”! When we engage in our relationships, there are certain pledges or commitments we make promises to keep. Fidelity in our marriages and partnerships, parent and child, siblings, relatives, friends, and those we engage with in our social constructs. The elements of trust and respect are the core of all relationships, and is critical in the development of the fabric, texture, and longevity of those relationships and bonds of our social contracts. If we have not developed in our character as a human being the necessary strands of growth that are necessary to be able to keep our commitments, we not only fail ourselves, but the world that is counting on our ability to carry through on what we have pledged to contribute.
I don’t like to color the texture of commitment with the word or feeling of “obligation”! That for some reason, does not sit well with me. It feels like something that is forced and oppressive rather than being part of an organic urge or action to engage in making a commitment that will enhance the life and wellbeing of someone we care about. It does not feel like we are willingly supporting our social community and the social contracts that are needed for the wellbeing of society if our commitment to those values are done because we feel a sense of obligation. Anyway, in today’s society people drenched in the “Me, Myself, and I, modality of living, would never be inclined to commitment to anyone or anything from a place of being obligated!
This is why it is necessary to re-think our understanding of what it is to commit to someone or something, because it must be done from a genuine, loving, and respectful place in our heart. We must make our commitments based in an organic and natural framework. There must be no conditions or stances of “I will do this if you …”. Our conditions of commitment must be free and fluid. There must be a natural give and take when the situation or relationship requires it. This position gives life and harmony which supports the depth and longevity of our relationships and the bonds of our social contracts. We have a responsibility to support the development of our children and learning to keep steadfast to their commitments no matter how seemingly insignificant is critical. Every day presents an opportunity for us to engage with our children in the course of their day to learn the value and purpose of making and keeping commitments. How and where you say- in their play and interactions with the people in their community-family, friends, and teachers. Be creative! Make the learning experience relevant and fun!
