What a blessing that Ua has a Mommy who is always listening!
All of us have been in a position where someone has tried to engage us in a conversation so as to get our input or to just be a “listening ear”. We all need to be heard at times. Times when we are deep in our thoughts and need to share them with others. Times when we are burning with an idea that we have come up with in our creative state and need someone to validate our discovery. There are times when we are experiencing a painful situation and we need someone to listen to our feelings. It requires our undivided attention when we are listening to someone. It means be an attentive and an active listener. It can be time spent that is well worth it. You never know when you will need the same courtesy.
The trick to really being a good listener is to void yourself of having an “already listening agenda”, that circumvents us from really listening to what someone is saying. That does no one any help, because we miss the true essence of what the person is sharing. We must turn off the chatter in our heads and dive into the conversation. Of course, there has to be some ground rules! We have to make sure that the person is available to indulge us in conversation. There has to be some agreed upon boundaries. Why? Well for some people we have to be careful of not being drained of all our ‘Chi”! We must feel comfortable enough to tell people that we are or are not available!
My sister and I have a habit of always trying to be available to other people and sometimes it is not in our best interest. We have a tendency of dropping whatever we are doing and making ourselves accessible. We are empaths and sometimes saying no is very difficult for us. We are learning though. We realize that we need to take care of ourselves if we are going to be helpful and supportive of others. It’s a hard lesson and has taken us years to figure this out.
And then there are children! They, so unlike us, tell us when they need to be heard! They are clear void of filters, asking for us to pay attention to them and “listen”! It makes communication so much easier for them! Children, when they are nurtured to be confidant and secure about asking those that care for them -the inner circle of family and friends- just ask to be listened to. Take for instance my little Ua. I don’t exactly know how this started, but ever time he want to ask me a question and engage in a conversation, he starts it with, “ Beckums, can I ask you a question? To which I reply, “ Of course my sweets, anything always”. How and why do we lose that natural and organic relationship with each other? I am on a quest to figure that out! It is such a beautiful way to be! We had so many gifts as children that we need to revive!
