Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #12 It is Not in Our Place and It is Not Our Responsibility to Design and Compose Our Children’s “Divine Identity and Character”!
Children have a “divine design and identity” that dictates the story of their life.
They only need us to nourish and guide them on their path as they discover “who they are and what their purpose is”. We can’t write their story and try to impose our perceptions of who we think they are or ought to be”. Great Spirit gifted them already!
So many of as parents fall into the habit of thinking we have the responsibility of perceiving who our children are and try to reconstruct their character traits and personality. It is a misconception to think that we have the responsibility much less the authority of imposing our design on a creation that is perfection. Remembering that no two people are alike, and that “Great Spirit” does not design carbon copies of His creations.
I know sometimes we engage with our children or observe them in action and say to ourselves, “Oh my goodness, Johnny is just like me when I was a child”, I know what he is thinking and going to do before he even does it”! No! No! No! You might have had similar experiences, but you never know what another person is thinking or what makes them react to something the way they do. Our thoughts reside in our minds, colored by what we are feeling and experiencing at the time.
Our past experiences also impact our thoughts and actions. Children are not as consistent as adults. Children are still in a discovering mode of their identity, and they are therefore able to be more flexible, spontaneous, and creative in living” in their life”. They are not bound by what other people think or expect them to be. Their gifts of discernment and ability to be by nature, uninhabited and organic, allows them the freedom to be who they want to be in any situation.
They are not stuck into an identity that has been redesigned and reconstructed by others until we interfere and try to make them someone they are not! I suggest we stay clear of trying to see ourselves or anyone else in our children, because truthfully, “they are their own person”! Wait! Observe! Enjoy! Discover the beauty of your child!
Everyday is a day of being able to discover more of who our children are!
Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.
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