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Sunday Morning Prayers-# 63. We are Being Called to Gather Our Families Together for Healing, Understanding, Compassion, and Unconditional Love.  We are More Than a “Family”, We are a “Legacy Tribe”, in Relationship With One Another From One Lifetime to Another.

We are one amazing lineage that travels from one lifetime experience to the next.  This relationship is not by chance but by “Great Spirit’s” “Divine Design”!  We are blessed!

Dear “Great Spirit”,

I don’t know the why, but I do know that this prayer today came up in my spirit.  I know by now that when this happens, it is your voice, “Great Spirit”, that is moving within me.  I hear the pain and disappointment in your voice as you survey the conditions of our family life.  I understand the frustration in the vibration of your spirit, when you see the devastation and death you see that some families are experiencing that are beyond their control.  Families are trying to navigate the chaos and destruction of this spiritual warfare that is plaguing our world.  Families are dealing with being displaced from their homes, families, and communities that should be able to support one another.  Families are dealing with trying to navigate loss of income and jobs that have sent them into a state of homelessness.  Children are struggling with trying to find ways to be happy, healthy, and whole in this world that has forgotten that they should be a priority to humanity.  These conditions have angered and disappointed “Great Spirit”. 

We have been given so many gifts as human beings that we should really should not be in this position.  However, the greatest concern is that those families that are not experiencing this level of devastation, are still not functioning as “Great Spirit” had envisioned for us. Those of us that are fortunate enough to have an intact families have to commit to working intentionally and purposefully to protect and nurture our relationships with each other.  We have to remember that communication is key to us having healthy, loving, and respectful relationships. 

We have to be in tune with what the important elements to this family relationship require.  We have to be willing to love each other unconditionally void of judgment and “already knowing kind of hearing that keeps us from really listening to each other”.  We have to be open and receptive to each other knowing that each person in our family has different personalities and different emotional needs.  We cannot allow our egos and pride, give way to resolving any differences and misunderstandings we have, stop us from letting our love for each other override any impasse that threatens the texture of the fabric of our family relationship.

 In other words, we are living in grace, mercy, and gratefulness and when you we are fortunate to be in a loving family, “To those that much have been given, much is expected”.  I am not saying that these “loving families” don’t have challenges, because they do, but it is worth the effort to invest in each other.  Grounding ourselves in these “Family Tribes” we have been gifted with, makes our life experience special and unique because no two families have the same “Divine Master Plan” because they are designed, created, and given their purpose differently.  Hold on to your family with all its imperfections and flaws because no matter what, “each family member carries a piece of you in their lineage”.

Ashé!   Ashé!!   Ashé!!!   Amen!!!!

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Breaking News!! It’s A New Day!!! October 5th, 2024- Day 52  Today is a day that “Great Spirit” has ordained for your life and soul expression.

Some people are friends, and some are an acquaintance.
The relationship of a friendship has different expectations.
Patti and I taught preschool together and have been friends for over 30 years.

Daily Mantra:

There is nothing you do not have the potential of accomplishing and manifesting that are the true desires of your heart.  We are each entitled to live a full, joy filled, and purposeful life.  Take hold of who your “divine identity” is, and your “divine life’s destiny plan and journey and will bless you and the world will be blessed.

Chat for the day: 

It is not always easy to decide who is a friend and who is an acquaintance sometimes.  There are times it seems they interchange, but the truth is that they are very different, and the depth of the relationship calls for a more committed and deeper involvement in each other’s lives.    There has to be a mutual respect.  There has to be compassion. There has to be a well full of agape love.  There has to be compromise and a willingness to listen to each other and be able to be truthful with each other.  There should be a fabric in friendship that is strong enough to weather any storm or misunderstanding.  We need to be able to count on each other to have each other’s back.  I know who my friends are and who my acquaintances are, and I am thankful for having the opportunity to have good people come into my life that I can share special times with, but those people that are my friends, are the people that I hold in my heart and prayers.

 They are the people I get excited about seeing and sharing special events with.  They are the people that I can call on when I am in need, and they can call on me when they are in need.  Friends are the people I feel comfortable laughing with and crying with.  Some friends are so close that we can read each other’s minds.  We are so close that we can feel when something is not right with each other. 

Friendship is a gift that is to be treasured.  I think the funny thing is that even if you don’t see each other or hear from each other for some time, when you are together again, it is like there had been no time or space between you.  So, this little chat is for us to remember who our friends are and love and cherish them for being a grounding cord in our life.

The principle to live by that will support our destiny path is – friendship is a precious gift.

Our daily ritual to check in “Intentions:

My “New Day Intentions” to nourish, enhance, and care for my: Spirit-Body-Mind

Spiritual Development:

  • Today I am setting an intention to evolve spiritually by engaging in an experience, event or circumstance that will enhance my “soul development”.  I will:

    Physical Development:

    • Today I am setting an intention to have an opportunity to care for myself in my physical body. I will:

    Mind-Cognitive Development:

    • Today I am setting an intention to nourish and enhance the insight and knowledge that my mind needs to be healthy, happy, and whole.  I will:

    My intention today is to have a day of:

    These are the intentions that I manifested today that brought me:

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    Breaking News!! It’s A New Day!!!  September 24th, 2024- Day 42 Happiest of Daughter’s Day

    Today is a day that “Great Spirit” has ordained for your life and soul expression.

    You hold them in your arms when they are little
    It is one relationship that is worth the investment!

    Daily Mantra:

    There is nothing you do not have the potential of accomplishing and manifesting that are the true desires of your heart.  We are each entitled to live a full, joy filled, and purposeful life.  Take hold of who your “divine identity” is, and your “divine life’s destiny plan and journey and will bless you and the world will be blessed.

    Chat for the day: 

    I woke up this morning to find out it was “Happy Daughter’s Day”, and it caused me to just sit in a smile for a while as I reflected on my life’s journey with my daughter Nicole Angel!  It is amazing to have the gift of sharing your life with the love and respect of a daughter.  I think it means different things for Moms and Dads because there is a special kind of connection between Moms and daughters that I can’t really explain.  I don’t know if it is because we as women can identify with the unique elements of being a woman.  We have shared experiences with our daughters at different stages of our life. When we bond with each other in this special relationship, I cannot express how beautiful and fulfilling it can be.  They say that the cells of our children that we birth stay in our blood till eternity.  Can you imagine how deep that relationship has the potential of being.  I treasure my relationship with my daughter and feel so blessed to have been given the gift to be her vessel to enter this earthly plain. 

    Dads have their own special connection to their daughters.  Innately, most fathers feel like they are their daughter’s protectors.  They are the ones who take it upon themselves to make sure they are cared for in terms of their security not just physically but financially.  Fathers can have the advantage of reading and identifying with the other males which can give them an advantage in protecting, nurturing and guiding their daughters in learning how to be discerning in their own relationships. 

    So today as we celebrate the gift of having our daughters, let’s do something special for them like:

    Text them a love note

    Write them a love note and send it to them- I still have love notes from my mother

    Send them candy or flowers

    Cook them their favorite meal

    Do whatever is your special little something between the two of you

    I know that my sisters feel the same way about their daughters as well.  I can see the imprint we have had on each of them.  I can see how this is an eternal relationship is real from our own family life experiences.  I count my Niki as my greatest life blessing!

    The principle to live by that will support our destiny path is -opening our hearts to love

    My “New Day Intentions” to nourish, enhance, and care for my: Spirit-Body-Mind

    Spiritual Development:

    • Today I am setting an intention to evolve spiritually by engaging in an experience, event or circumstance that will enhance my “soul development”.  I will:

      Physical Development:

      • Today I am setting an intention to have an opportunity to care for myself in my physical body. I will:

      Mind-Cognitive Development:

      • Today I am setting an intention to nourish and enhance the insight and knowledge that my mind needs to be healthy, happy, and whole.  I will:

      My intention today is to have a day of:

      These are the intentions that I manifested today that brought me:

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      Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #72 Parenting -The Lifetime Eternal Relationship that is a Blessing.

      I would not trade for anything on earth for the love, respect, and devotion my daughter and I have for each other. I prayed and asked “Great Spirit” for her and I got just what I asked for!
      It is timeless and priceless.

      I thought it would be a good idea to share a personal moment in my life as a parent. I remember and still have the letters my Mom wrote to me from childhood through adulthood. Letters that touched my heart and hat with my filled my soul. The words of wisdom she so lovingly shared with me have guided and nurtured me my entire life. I have tried to do that with my Niki as different life challenges have come up on her divine destiny path, so that she would know she is loved and cared for. I am smiling because we have the kind of relationship where she writes me too- just when I need a “word” from her to settle my mind or fill my heart with love. I encourage parents to design their own unique way of kindling a love expression with their child that will sustain that divine connection vibration that was created between them from before birth. So I hope you will feel the love I am expressing to her when I wrote it, because that was my intention.

      Keep Your Peace- Protect Your Joy!

      A Letter to My Daughter

      This is a new day that the Lord has provided!

      Enjoy the Joy!

      Take hold of your peace!

      Be intentional about not falling into the trap that people try to set to draw you into their souls that are lost and Godless instead of God-filled!

      You are covered by the blood of Jesus, and that is what you must focus on when any negativity comes at you! Bless them and dismiss them or any situation into His care and control.

      When it comes to having to engage with people, before you consider them to be actual friends or partners, you have to use your discernment and set criteria for allowing them to be considered in that category! Ask yourself-

      1. Are they polite and courteous in the way in which they relate to you and others in your realm of influence?
      2. Be clear about knowing who you are and what you bring to the table.
      3. Observe and record- Don’t jump into something that you have not observed.
      4. At the end of the engagement, review and reflect on your experience and how it made you feel.  This enables you to decide:
      5. How to relate to this person
      6. If this person meets your standards as a friend-partner or just someone if it is work related-that you have to find a way to engage in a way that keeps you healthy.
      7. Observe how you respond to different personalities and what work for you.
      8. Realize you can adjust to different personalities when you are not invested in temporary relationships.  If you find yourself in a situation where you are working with someone whose personality does not resonate with you, and it is more permanent than you have to evaluate if this is conducive for your highest good.  If it is a relationship on a personal level, then you have to make some serious decisions on how to communicate your needs so that the relationship is healthy and sustainable.

      These elements don’t matter with what I call “Shift workers” only real partners in life:

      *Philosophy of Life-

      *Political Views

      *Morals and Values

      *If they like you

      Cause it really does not matter because “Shift Workers” are like ships that will pass in the night.

      You have an intention for why you are doing in life, and you only have to continue to put in the time and energy to develop your skills and relationships with the people that “get you” and you “get them”.

      It has to make you happy most of the time realistically or re-evaluate if this is where and what you want to do. Ask yourself, am I myself, and am I happy engaging with this person?

      Remember you always have options you just have to ask God and trust what He brings your way.

      Be open-

      Be observant-

      Be flexible-

      Be yourself and be comfortable in yourself-

      Not every day will be good, but the good days will outweigh the bad days, or it is not where you should be or what you should be doing, and definitely not engaged with someone that takes you out of your joy and peace.

      It must be more effortless in most elements of your “work”- please find and do your “work” and not a “job”.  There is work in sustaining a relationship, but it should not feel like you lose yourself and reside in an “out of body” life experience. Our relationships should enhance our life light, not consume it or sniff it out!

      You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in all aspects of your life because you invest completely in everything and everyone.  I know you to be a compassionate empath!

      Be gentle with yourself!

      Move through things slowly and thoughtfully!

      You got this cause ultimately God got you in the palms of His hands and handles everything that comes your way. Remember you have a “divine identity” and there is a “divine plan for your life”.

      You are blessed and highly favored!

      Love,

      Mommey-

      Elizabeth M. Evans

      January 7, 2021

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      Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #7 Siblings- The Bond of an Eternal Relationship that Must Wither All of Life’s Storms and Protect the Collective Memories of Joy!

      As siblings we were ordained to take care of one another.
      It is an eternal relationship blessed by the angels.

      I really cannot begin to share with you how important the bonding development is between siblings because it is so near and dear to my heart!  I am so appreciative to my parents for the way in which they raise the five of us to have a loving and caring relationship with each other.  They taught us how vital it was to always stand up for each other when any of us are challenged with a situation or circumstances that might cause us to need the kind of support that can only come from “family”.  I know that no matter what I encounter in life, I can count on my brothers and sisters to come to my aid.  Emotionally and spiritually, I cannot tell you how powerful and grounded it has made my life.  As children we were taught that the bond between us was special and unique and that we were invincible when we came together to solve a problem or come to each other’s aid. 

      We were the Galloway Clan, and we took care of each other as children and still do to this day as adults.  It is important for us as parents to instill this bond of love, respect, and allegiance among the siblings in their family unit.  It teaches children the value and importance of being a loving human being.  It teaches children the value of loving and being loved as a foundation of what to expect for in a loving relationship when they embark on dating as well as what to expect in the quality of friendships they form.  Yes, it is not the same kind of love, and we know there are many types of love, but this love that abides in our family unit sets the foundation for becoming a loving human being.

      In our society today, we are engulfed in developing our species to be independent and self-sufficient and this is important!  At the same time our human design calls for us to also be interdependent with one another.  This interdependence is not an either-or choice, it is an element of our character development that should be in alignment, harmony, and balance.  We want our children to become strong, independent thinkers and doers, but at the same time we want the family unit to be built on the trust and “knowingness”, that we are intertwined in a good way with one another’s life.  Not all children have siblings, but when there is a psychological and emotional need to have that kind of relationship, they find a way to develop that relationship with perhaps a cousin or friend that is willing and open to being a suricate sibling.  A wonderful example is how my Niki decided that as an only child, her cousins-Robin-Joshua- and Leilani, were in fact her siblings.  Lucky for Niki, they love her so much they fully embraced the relationship.

      There are of course children that feel perfectly fine with being the only child and they are healthy emotionally and spiritually without a sibling.  This conversation though is to bring to light that as families with children, you might think about what you want the relationship between your children to look like and feel like.  On a spiritual plane the relationship between siblings was meant to be eternal, unconditional, based on love, compassion, respect, and an intuitive language of “knowingness”.  Perhaps at another time I will share some of the things our parents did that nurtured our relationship as siblings!

      Just food for thought!

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      Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #61 The Village is a Child’s Grounding Cord!

      Children are entitled to a “village-community” that supports and guides them through their childhood and hopefully, will be an integral part of mentoring their adulthood. 
      We need the voices of our elder’s wisdom to keep us grounded in loving and respecting ourselves.

      Parents have an unspoken responsibility to formulate a “village-community” to interface and engage in the life of their children.  In some religious and cultural practices, parents choose what is known as “Godparents” for their children.  In some cultures, family and extended family are brought together in a traditional ritual routine to be an active part of a child’s life.  Family gatherings, and special occasions in that child’s life are shared with the family.  The child looks for those people to participate in their life.  In some cultures, the grandparents are held in high esteem and what they think and say are considered vital to the child’s development.  If there are aunts, uncles, and cousins that are active in a child’s life, these can develop into important loving relationships.

       I can remember how important my Nana Marie- my grandmother, was in my life.  I had my favorite grand aunts and grand uncles, aunts, and uncles, and most definitely favorite cousins that I am still connected to and participate in my life.  My parents designed the context and structure of these relationships for our family.  Sometimes people do not have access or the logistics to be in close relationship with family and then are called to find other people they honor and trust to be members of the “village-community” that supports the life and welfare of their children.  What is most important is for a child to have a strong and vital support system that is in alignment with the values, ethics, and moral standards of the family. Continuity and consistency is critical in the raising our children.