Category: TINY TIPS 4 MOMS AND DADS

Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads-#17

What Children See and What They Hear Dictates So Much of How They Respond to Life and Their World!

“I come into the world discovering all the beauty and wonder the world has to offer me”.

In my mind and in my heart, I want to hold on to what I know is the truth of what the world can be for me and all the other children in the world.”

This week I blogged on the disease that afflicts the soul of mankind-racism and all the other isms that historically society has created to divide us from one another.  Today I want to sensitize parents to how crucial our behavior is in teaching and modeling for our children.  I spoke to the fact that children are not born with these destructive elements in their character but are taught to be racist and judgmental of others by what they are exposed to environmentally.  We as parents and care givers of children must be really cautious and in tune with what we are doing and saying that can alter the pure nature of a child.

Children don’t come into this world feeling a sense of superiority or deference to other people.  They operate on a different plane then we do.  They see what we can’t see because we have forgotten the truth of who we were divinely created to be for ourselves and for the enhancement of others.  It will take a lot of reflection and soul searching for us to come to grips of what we are demonstrating consciously and unconsciously.  We have to be tapped into our higher level of consciousness when we are in the midst of children.

They are so highly sensitive that they are able to read right through us.  They value our opinions.  They model our behavior.  They take our words to be the truth and nothing but the truth.  They want our acceptance and love so they will honor and respect what we tell them and show them.  It is a lot of responsibility but that is what “Parenthood” is all about.  If you value your relationship with your child, you will make sure that you are being honest and trustworthy, because if they discover that what in fact you have told them is not truthful and righteous, you run the risk of losing their respect and trust.

We also have to make sure that the people we expose our children to from relatives to teachers, coaches, etc. are on the same page as we are.  This period of childhood is the training ground for their journey through life.  The impressions made in childhood will not be forgotten and can paint a huge section of the canvas of their life’s story.  Racism and self-destructive behavior can be eradicated from the fiber of our humanity if each of us will do our part to be our highest selves.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

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Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #16-

The Real Value of Engaging Children in Experiencing the Rituals of Holidays.

***For translation of the text of the blog: touch the Blue Globe on the top right-hand corner.

Children by their very nature love to party and have a good time! After all they are “Joy”!

How do we respectfully and intentionally engage our children in holiday celebrations so that the experience is both memorable and void of stress and anxiety?

Realizing that the act of celebrating life and engaging in rituals that represent those celebrations, is a unique and purposeful ingredient in our human divine design.  We have throughout our history as a specie, engaged in occasions that are in context to our life experiences.  Whether it is a communal expression, religious doctrine-based rituals, national or ethic-based celebrations that denote remembrances of things from a historical context, we have an instinctual need to “celebrate life”.  This ability to celebrate and be in a state of joy and happiness, is a legacy we must pass on to our children.

We are so fortunate and blessed when we are able to demonstrate for our children that life is worth taking out the time and energy to “Celebrate” through our own expressions of engaging in the festivities of our culture, religion, and any other occasion that we can participate in.  There is even room in our life to make new rituals and activities that are unique to our family.

So, what are the to do’s for our children?

1. Prepare them ahead of a holiday event or other celebrative event.  I would suggest depending on what is being celebrated, that you sit down at some point and talk about what they can expect.
2. If there are resources available read a story with them on the topic or go on an adventure looking up the history and purpose of the “What and Why”.
3. Make a plan on what you want to expose your child-children to in relationship to the event or occasion.  Timeline of how long you will engage. Know the signals of when your child is tired or overwhelmed.
4. Balance!!! Everyone raises their children in their own unique way based on their own subscription of their values, so don’t waste time being judgmental, just be clear with your own children that your family values and expectations for behavior is consistent whether they are at home or in a public situation. You know what gets your children in a space that they feel out of sorts, so it is our responsibility as parents to stay in tune with what is happening with them.  I like what I call “Check in times”!  We have a little signal that means, come in for a quick huddle.
5. Be realistic!!  There are holidays that we celebrate that have lost sight of the real reason for us celebrating them and have taken on a commercial texture that makes it competitive and devalued in purpose.  If you decide to pull back from that texture of the celebration, make sure you never go “cold turkey”, talk about it as a family, and make sure that everyone participates in the outcome.
6. Take care of yourself!  Don’t go overboard to the point you are exhausted and overwhelmed because that will impact not just you, but the whole family.  Moderation so that you make memories of joy and not nightmares of anxiety and remorse.

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

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Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads # 15
Nurturing Our Children Into the Development of their Consciousness!

Ua in deep meditation doing his Tai Chi ritual mantra he made for himself.  

***For translation of the text of the blog: touch the Blue Globe on the top right-hand corner.

The Process of awakening the gift of consciousness that are children are born with, starts in the early stages of development and continues throughout our life’s journey.

We have a responsibility as parents to awaken the consciousness in our children’s souls so that they have an understanding of right and wrong, being grateful, have the ability to feel remorse for actions and deeds that are not in alignment with being their higher selves. We don’t want them to use words that can cause other people to experience pain and hurt! It is an everyday task and experiential opportunities to guide children into the understanding of their emotional intelligence which is the foundation and support of their developing social skills and sense of consciousness!

I believe that one of the reasons we are witnessing so much neurotic and heinous violence in our world today is because many human beings have been deprived of the care, nurturing, and guidance they needed as children when it should have occurred! We have an urgent responsibility to take this task seriously! We need to realize that the emotional intelligence and emotional well-being of our children must be a priority, because if not, I can guarantee you that all the cognitive -intellectual development and educational preparation we make as a priority will be of little significance in the scheme of developing the “whole, healthy, happy, and successful contributing global citizen.

We went through a phase in Early Childhood Education, where we told children they didn’t have to apologize to someone if they hurt them physically or emotionally, unless they meant it! Well, how would children be able to value apologizing or understand the “why” it is important to be able to “feel a sense of remorse” for their actions if we don’t guide them and nurture them through the process!

Children are highly intuitively sensitive, and we have to find ways to plug into their ability to develop an evolved consciousness! Please, thank you, I’m sorry, forgive me are essential essences of an evolved and functioning society! Teaching and modeling gratitude for receiving and earnest humility in giving, is an unbelievable gift we can give to our children that will when done collectively, change the trajectory of our struggling humanity!

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

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Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads #10 “Letting Go of Biases”

Refraining from Judging Our Different Cultural Values and Practices in Raising Our Children.

We parent our children with the intention of doing our best to raise them from a loving heart and mindful thoughtfulness to ensure their wellbeing and social skills to navigate life.

We all parent are children from elements of our own childhood experiences.  We then infuse other practices that we are exposed to. Another element that is part of what we do is crafted from our intuition and cultural values.  An eclectic approach to parenting is my favorite approach to parenting children.  It has got to be your personal decision.  We have to be non-judgmental and supportive of each family’s lifestyle and parenting practices that they choose for their children.

Recognizing that no two families are going to have identical parenting practices even when they have been raised by the same parents in the same home.  Why is this? Well for one thing each child will interpret their experience with their parents differently.  A child’s perspective of what transpired in their childhood curiously enough, stays consistent as even an adult. I get a tickle sometimes when my siblings and I discuss events from our childhood and discover that each of has a different story of what took place.  It is actually quite fun!

I have had the privilege of teaching preschoolers from an array of cultural backgrounds.  There have been times when I would as many as 10-15 different ethnicities represented in my classroom.  It was a joy to dive into aspects of their culture because it gave me an opportunity to explore and engage in their family’s values, culture, and parenting styles.  I learned so much from taking advantage of what I had been gifted as a teacher.

The diversity and complexity of each cultural expression gave me great insight as to not only how parents of different ethnicities value and raise their children but instilled in me the desire to expand and enhance my own parenting skills.  I know without reservation that parents want the best for their children and are concerned about wanting to honor and respect their elders that raised them in conjunction with adapting to the society in which they are raising their children.

No one intentionally wants their children to be out of sync with what other children are experiencing, but at the same time we have an allegiance to honor, respect, and uphold some of the most important tenements of our culture.  We owe it to our children to instill certain family and cultural values in their life’s expression.  So much of who they are is embedded in their DNA, and DNA holds so many of the wonderful secrets of our cultural expressions.

So, my advice today is for us to think about what parenting practices we want to implement with our children that will be appropriate in terms of first the nature of our child, and then in terms of our cultural values that will allow our children to also be confident and secure in how they are being raised.

The joys of parenting are never ending!  If we are awake in our lives and tune into our gift of parenting, this divine destiny path we are on will reap unbelievable rewards!

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