Each and every day they are in their process of discovering who they are!
Some of what I want to do in this category of Blogs for parents, is to go back to my book, “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood”, and reiterate and expound on different elements of the book that I feel will be helpful and that as we grow and evolve as parents, that there is still more truth and knowledge to color the context and content of our parenting strategies and philosophy. One area of development and growth that I feel is crucial in raising and nurturing our children is that of helping them in the development of their character traits and behavior. This of course involves us first looking at ourselves and coming to terms about what we do and do not want to pass on to our children.
Introspection and retrospection are important tools for us to access where we are in our own character evolution. Parents have to live the qualities of character they want to cultivate in the personality of their child. In each stage of development whether it is the child’s development or the relationship of child and parent, it takes a lifetime to acquire all of these crucial attributes that make up the fulfillment of the human design. We cannot abandon our children to this world of trickery, greed, and lust. We owe it to them and to society as a whole, to raise children that will evolve to become contributing and functional adults. Are you up to the challenge? Are you ready to take on a journey that will help you become more of who you really are? If your answer to these questions is yes, then by all means let’s continue the conversation. This journey of parenthood is really not as complicated as it is seems.
These children that we are making a lifetime commitment to are gifts that we ultimately have no physical or emotional control over. What we do have, if we have done our work, is a spiritual connection that will never separate them from us. It is this connection that last a lifetime and beyond. When we have spent time modeling the appropriate attributes, values, and morals we can rely on this spiritual relationship to guide them throughout their lives. Our thoughts and feelings will transmit to them in the most obscure way.
Can you remember when you were in the mist of doing something you knew that you were not supposed to do and you would hear your mother’s or father’s voice in your head? Sometimes you would get a lump in your throat or discomfort in the pit of your stomach! The most amazing thing is when we actually hear ourselves saying or doing things to or for our children that our parents said or did to or for us. Many times, these responses are unintentional and merely more like a reflex response. We must make sure that we carry only those things that are loving and respectful. We don’t want to impose anything on our children that is offensive and destructive. Think of what you share with them in the process of parenting, to build good self-esteem and confidence in your child. Let your words and actions demonstrate the best of what you have to offer. This is the part of being a parent that makes it all worthwhile.
Cherish these days of your child’s youth. These days don’t last forever, and they pass quickly. The opportunity we have to influence them and make an imprint on their life is so short. Peers take over before you know it and if you have not built a firm foundation for your relationship, you will miss the opportunity of a lifetime. This is about building blocks that will carry them throughout life with tools to navigate society and their own personal divine journey!
Oh, this is a big one in raising children! We have to be constantly concerned that the people we are surrounding our children with, and even the people that are acquaintances are vetted by us. I know to use the terminology- “vetted” seems serious, but if we do not take a serious look at the people that are influencing our children, we are leaving to chance, what their impact might be on not just them physically, but emotionally and psychologically! There are also “Influencers” that impact our children in social media, and television content in programs that are geared for children. These are times where the social engagement with children is off the chart in terms of securing their safety. We as parents are the ones that are responsible for their safety and yes, it is a lot of work, but we have no choice! We have to screen what they are exposed to in the world of technology.
There are so many hidden messages that are infused in what is supposed to be “children’s programing”, that I strongly suggest that if you are allowing your children to watch TV, or use the computer, that you not only set up guidelines of the “To do’s and the Not to do’s”, but that you are present in the room, or taking the time to engage in the watching of the tv program. It is important for you to be eyes and ears, in what your child is being exposed to. It is important that if questions come up in the process, that you are there to engage in the conversation. The right information at the right time of your individual child’s maturation, is key to safeguarding your child’s innocence, and capability of processing information. Have you ever observed that your child even has an emotional reaction to certain music. I observed that our kids get very sensitive to music in minor keys. Take note!
Then there is the interest and concern about who are the influencers that engage in our child’s life, and I don’t mean just friends and acquaintances! Who are the members of our family that will be a positive stake holder in our child life and development? Who are the family members who are healthy in mind, body, and spirit, that we can trust will lovingly and earnestly engage with our children appropriately? Will they study the nature of our child and be willing to engage with them for “Who they are”? Will they say and do things for them that will build their self-esteem and anchor them in loving and respecting themselves?
Will they make the time and spend the energy to “think before they speak” so that they say things that are context and content appropriate? Will they be willing to share their knowledge, wisdom, and the legacy of your family that will ground them in pride, self-confidence, and respecting the value and legacy of your family? Will they be truthful and respectful, and be adult enough in their own identity, that they realize that they must make sure that what they share with your child, has been sanctioned by you, as their parents.
Survey your family, and without bias and judgment but with wisdom and forethought decide who you feel safe engaging with your child! Sometimes it is a very simple, statement, that someone can say to your child that is not being said with malice or thoughts of hurting them, but once said, it enters the psyche of a child, and believe me when I tell you it never leaves! Somehow and at some time it will surface and color some essence of their life memory bank. It is amazing how little things done and said in childhood can weave into some aspect of who we see ourselves or others as. Wow! Parenthood is no joke, but “Great Spirit” is always there to support us if we but tune into the vibration!
The Balancing Act-Physical, Cognitive, Social Emotional, and Spiritual Development in Our Children.
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We look for the teaching moments so that we can use real life experiences to live the lesson.
The balancing act of supporting our child’s life in all the domains of their potential development is our most difficult and challenging responsibility as parents. We first have to acknowledge and understand the different domains of the human design. Our children’s physical, cognitive, social-emotional, and spiritual development sets the stage for who they are and will continue to evolve to be.
How we care for and nurture those areas of development must be attended to and guided into alignment in terms of maintaining a balance of the time and energy we invest in each of them. We have to be observant and discerning in terms of what area of their divine design calls for, at times, more attention and loving guidance, then other areas that might be more in sync and grounded.
We as parents must understand that first of all, no two children are alike and that one child might need in one of these domains, will be different. It calls for us to be open and receptive of who are children are and what they need. There is no steadfast timetable track that these domains develop on. The authentic nature of who that child is designed to be dictates what they need at any given time. It is such a miraculous experience for parents to witness. I feel these observations, engagement, and opportunities to nurture our children in these important domains, is the key to not only supporting their development, but giving us as parents the chance to see ourselves for who we are.
This revelation can lead us to really having an even more compassionate understanding of our child-children. It is so exciting to watch our children grow into themselves and for to be privileged to be an active participant and listener. We must therefore keep a watchful eye that we are doing our magical parental balancing act to attend to the total development of our child-children- mind-body-emotions-and spirit!
Parenting Tips:
So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize how intricately you are connected to this life that has been brought on to this planet that has its own unique and “Divined Identity” and “Divined Purpose. May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are your journey through parenthood, and what you are not only gifting humanity, but how the life of your child is a blessing to you, and how you are a blessing to your child.
Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.
Believe it or not, kids really depend on us to make sound decisions.
They want to make independent decisions, but we have a responsibility to teach them how to do that in a way that is nurturing, protective, and inclusive.
Wow! This is probably one of the hardest parts of being a parent! The part that calls on us to know what is good for the development and safety of our children and what is not. It is the time in their life where we are guiding and teaching them how to make appropriate decisions. Decisions that will enhance the quality of their life experiences. This is not something that is done overnight, and the maturity -intellectually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, must be taken into account as we allow them to make more and more independent decisions.
No two children are the same and that is what can make it difficult to explain that what is good for one child, might not be good for another. But as parents, we have no choice but to respond to each child individually. In light of this dilemma, there has to be general foundational values that run thru the fabric of a family. Children need consistency, continuity, and honesty. They need to see a common thread of the decision process being used throughout the family members and dynamics. There has to be equality and consideration of everyone’s feelings and desires.
Parents have to come up with a process that works for their family. But I would like to suggest the following:
Sometimes you will be able to say “Yes” because the request is simple and requires no in-depth analysis on your part. You have to be grounded in what those things are if you are to respond responsibly. Maybe even identify those things with your child so that they know that if the circumstances are right, you will most likely be able to grant their request.
Sometimes you will have to say “No” because you know and I bet they kind of know-that what they are asking is clearly not in their best interest and might cause them harm. You might even identify the things that hypothetically, could be dangerous, not appropriate for their age, or would have serious repercussions not just physically, but emotionally.
Sometimes it can be a simple “Maybe”, because it is something that you have given them permission to do before and it has proven to be a healthy, rewarding experience for them. This is the request that is about “Timing” and making it work in consideration to everything else that is going on in the life of the “Family”. There are the individual needs and then there is also the needs of the “Collective.
Then when a request gives you a little “pause”, you might just have to respond with –“Not at this time because…”. That is the one that teaches that there is not always instant gratification and allows for the development of “Patience”, which we as adults know to be one of the most difficult character traits to develop. What I like about this is that we have the “because”. I really believe it is important to treat children as intelligent human beings and they deserve for us to explain why we make these judgment calls. Even in this process we are modeling how to make the “best decision”!
But the first thing we must do no matter what we say, even if for only a moment, is to –
Take a breath- and respond with our parental mantra for making informed decisions and say- “Let me think about it and we can talk”! Ooops- another opportunity to model patience, thoughtfulness, and love. I would even sign this statement with a kiss. They now know that they have your full attention and that what is transpiring in their life, is important and relevant to you. This whole process can be empowering to children because this action entails their participation and input in the discussion that is to follow.
Next time we touch on this topic- we will contemplate on what are the driving thoughts and influences that create these requests. It is of great importance that we survey that with our children. It’s part of the awakening of how their world interfaces with the world we live in.
Welcome to Our Parenting Hub! Here we are creating a sacred space where I hope to share “Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads” that will make “Parenting” a journey that is both transformative and supportive as you embark on the “Journey through Parenthood”! I hope that what is shared will be eye opening and uplifting and will give you a sense of peace and balance as a parent in “residence” with the gift of your child-children.
Parenting is basically a trial and error expereince as both the child and the parent navigate their relationship in a world that is evolving so rapidly, that we are living in a state of very little grounding. While parenthood is challenging, it is the most amazing expereince that brings you the most gratification as you witness your growth and development and the growth and develpment of your child.
As a parent, I must embrace the gift of parenthood and the responsibilities of this role in my child’s life. It is a life long journey in which there will be opportunities for me to build a loving and respectful relationship with my child. Everyday is a day which presents new challenges and new growth. I invite you to share in my experiences as a parent and as an educator of young children.
The Poem- ” I Realize”, that is the foundation of my philosophy of Parenting-
I realize I’ve been given the gift to be your parent and as your parent I realize this is a life time commitment.
I realize this means I have the responsibility to be your lifetime earthly ‘Spirit Guide”.
I realize you are a gift given to me great intention and you and I are connected by design.
I realize you are expecting me to take my responsibility seriously and understand I cannot be your friend and “Spirit Guide” at the same time.
I realize you are expecting me to love you, guide you, support you, and discipline you, with consistency and continuity.
I realize I must follow through with what I proclaim to be truth, justice, integrity and genuine love for you, so you will ultimately develop your own sense a conscious and values.
I realize I must be very intentional in spending time with you, praying with you, playing with you, laughing with you, crying with you, listening to you, and problem solving with you.
I realize I have a responsibility to provide for you- to make sure you have all the resources and experiences you need to be a whole, healthy, happy and confident human being.
I realize you are not me and I am not you and as your “Spirit Guide” I have a responsibility to observe you and discover who you are and what “Great Spirit” has ordained you to contribute to society so I can support you on your journey to “Greatness”.
I realize you came here knowing who you are and what you must do and if I honor and respect you and if I demand that others do the same, you will blossom into your full expression of beauty and this world will be a better place because of you.
I realize I have a responsibility to be all I can be so you will know I expect you to do the same.
I realize our love for each other will last beyond this life time and the next and what we build with each other today will last forever.
I realize you are my gift and I am yours.
Elizabeth M. Evans
June 2006
I invite you to read my book- “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood- How to Create a Loving Relationship With Your Children”. Available: Amazon and Barnes and Noble
I have been asked if what I do is a business. Well actually it is not a business! It is merely- A Family Affair!
Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads-
What is “Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads? It is an intention to support parents on their journey thorough “Parenthood”. The intention is to share my ideas and thoughts about different experiences parents have and will be challenged with. The topics are shared so that parents feel they are not alone on this journey and that they belong to a community of parents that have a common ground on which to parent their children.
These Tiny Tips are not shared in a way to pass judgement or be the only solution to the challenges of parenthood! I just want to help parents support the lives of their children with confidence and open mindfulness. Please feel free to contact me with any questions that might come to mind when you read the post.
We will be running a weekly series of-
“Tiny Tips For Moms and Dads” that we hope you will enjoy. We have done these previously but now we are adding voice recordings to make our Tips more personal and approachable for parents, extended family, and all those professionals that interact with children. Remember- the blogs are translatable by pressing the blue globe at the top of the blog.
I just wanted to chime in and share an observation I have been having while observing children both at home and out in the world. There is so much going on in this chaotic world that it is difficult if not impossible to shield them from all the negative and aggressively assaulting attacks that are impeding our normal or at least navigable lifestyle. The spiritual vibration of our humanity has regressed to an even lower level so that children, who are by their very nature at a higher vibrational level to adults, are wading in waters of anxiety, fear, frustration, and a feeling of emotional abandonment.
We have to buffer their trauma with a sense of security and tenderness. It is important for us to be physically close to them. Huggs and kisses and cuddle time is imperative! Now more than ever we have to find ways to change the trajectory of where our humanity is headed. We will be held accountable for what is happening to our children. There are so many forces working against us that are out of our control, but at the same time we have the power and capacity to protect our children in ways that will give them a substantial measure of guidance and protection. This does not have to be complicated or overwhelming.
Make our homes a safe haven from the world by being selective of what is talked about and allowed to penetrate our family life. -Media, AI, negative people, etc.
Carefully as possible be intentional about where our children go to school and what extra curricula activities they engage in and who influences them in those environments. Our participation in these environments is critical.
Join groups that are viable organizations where you can share your concerns about the affairs of you community and your country. WE are tasked as parents, grandparents, extended family, educators, and health care advocates in service to children to be “CHANGE MAKERS”!
Our children deserve the world filled with love and possibilities, where they can be in full expression of the gifts they have come to share with the world. This world is not ready for what they have come to share and unfortunately, they are learning this to be true more and more every day. They have the healing keys to our humanity-LOVE- there is no time to lose! Be the parent you were designed and gifted to me. Our collective is powerful beyond measure!
A go na le mpho e e botlhokwa go gaisa botsalano jo re nang le jone jaaka motsadi le ngwana?
“Living in a Space of Thanks”.
Bana ke mpho e kgolo go di gaisa tsotlhe tse batho ba di neilweng.
Gompieno ke tlile go abelana karolo ya Kgaolo 12 ya buka ya me – “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood: How to Create a Loving Relationship with Your Children”.
Available: Amazon and Barnes and Noble as well as Xlibris.
Eno ke kgaogelo fela ya kgaolo e e latelang!
“Ke a rapela”….
Keletso ya pelo ya me le mowa wa me ke go nna mpho e e tlhwatlhwakgolo mo botshelong jwa ngwanake. Ke rapela gore ke nne lesedi le le kaelang le le ka mo teng ga mowa wa gagwe. Ke rapela gore a nne modumo o mo go one a ikutlwang a phuthologile go baya morwalo, ditoro le boitumelo jwa pelo ya gagwe mo go yone. Ke rapela gore mpho ya me ya go mo isa mo sefofaneng seno sa lefatshe e nne maitemogelo a botho a a mo tlisetsang kgotsofalo, boitumelo le kagiso e e fetang tlhaloganyo yotlhe. Ke rapela gore mpho ya me ya go mo godisa ka dikgato tsa gagwe tsa kgolo e tla mo tsenya mo go ene keletso ya go itshepa mo motho yo a sa batleng go nna ene, mme motho yo “Mowa o Mogolo” o mo diretseng go nna ene. Eno ke tsela ya kganetso le ditshiamelo tse di ka mo kgoreletsang go tshela botshelo jo bo nang le bokao.
Ke rapela gore mpho ya me ya go mo rata e tla mo ruta ka bokgoni jwa gagwe jwa go mo rata. Ke rapela gore mpho ya me ya go mo rata e tla dira gore a nne le dipontsho tsa lorato tse a di tshwanetseng. Ke rapela gore mpho ya botshelo jwa me e nne thotloetso mo go ene gore a anaanele boswa jwa lelapa la gagwe. Ke rapela gore mpho ya botshelo jwa me e nne kgato e mo go yone a ka kgonang go ya kwa maemong a a kwa godimo a temogo le seabe mo setšhabeng. Ke rapela gore ka metlha ke nne kelotlhoko le go lemoga dilo tse di sa siamang tsa loeto lwa gagwe le gore ka metlha o na le kitso ya gore lorato lwa me lo teng go mo ema nokeng mo loetong lwa gagwe mo botshelong. Ke rapela gore mpho ya kgolagano ya semoya e ke mo godisitseng ka yone e nne motswedi wa maatla a a tla re kopanyang ka bosakhutleng.
Ke rapela gore motswedi ono wa semoya o tla mo thusa go lebana le dikgwetlho le dithuto tsotlhe tsa botshelo. Ke leboga thata go bo ke nnile le tshegofatso e e seng fela ya go nna le ngwana mo lefatsheng mme gape le go bo ke na le tshono ya go godisa ngwana. Ga go na mpho epe e e botlhokwa go gaisa go nna le ngwana yo o nang le botsogo jo bo siameng. Ke nngwe ya dimpho tse di “tlhwatlhwakgolo”. Ke nnile le dikgwetlho tse dingwe jaaka ke itse gore batsadi ba bangwe ba nnile le tsone kgotsa ba tla nna le tsone mo isagweng, mme ka ntlha ya gore ga re a tshwanela go lebala kamano eno jaaka “mpho”, re tshwanetse go nna le tumelo ya gore kwa bofelong, lorato lwa rona jaaka motsadi ke lorato lo bana ba rona ba lo tshwanelang mme ba tlhoka thata go ba tshegetsa botshelo jotlhe jwa bone.
Lorato lono ruri ke “lo lo sa khutleng” e bile ke “lo lo sa khutleng”. Lorato lono ga lo a tshwanela go atlhola kgotsa go se bonale mo go se re se lebeletseng mo go yo mongwe. Re bomang, re batsadi le bana ba rona. Thapelo ke sedirisiwa se se ka re thusang go nna motsadi! Bana ba rona ba ikaegile ka dithapelo tsa rona le ditiro tsa rona go dira lefatshe le le ba tshwanelang le dimpho tse ba re tlisitseng tsone go godisa segakolodi sa batho.
Today I am going to share an excerpt of Chapter 12 of my book- “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood: How to Create a Loving Relationship with Your Children”.
Available: Amazon and Barnes and Noble as well as Xlibris.
This is just a taste of the chapter!
“I Pray”….
Oh, the desire of my heart and soul is to be a precious gift in the life of my child. I pray to be the guiding light that ignites the light within her soul. I pray to be the sounding board on which she feels comfortable laying the burdens, dreams, and joy of her heart upon. I pray that my gift to usher her into this earthly plane will be a human experience that brings her fulfillment, joy and peace that surpasses all understanding. I pray that my gift of parenting her through her milestones of development will prove to instill in her a desire to be self-actualized into the person that she doesn’t will herself to be, but the person “Great Spirit” has designed her to be. This is the path of least resistance and distractions that would hinder her from a life of purpose.
I pray that my gift of loving her will teach her about her capacity to love. I pray that my gift of loving her will call her to create the expressions of love she is worthy of. I pray that the gift of my life will be an inspiration to her so that she values the legacy of her family heritage. I pray that the gift of my life will be steppingstone on which she can springboard to even higher levels of consciousness and contribution to society. I pray that I will always be sensitive to and aware of the nuances of her journey and that she always has a knowingness that my love is there to support her in her travel through life. I pray that the gift of spiritual connectedness that I have raised her with will be the source of strength that will bind us through eternity.
I pray this source of spirituality will enable her to meet all of life’s challenges and lessons. I am so grateful for having had the blessing to not only bring life into the world, but for the opportunity of parenting a child. For me, there is no greater gift then having the blessing of parenting a child. It is one of those gifts that is “priceless”. I have had as I know other parents have had or will have in the future, some hair raising challenges as a parent, but because we must never lose sight of this relationship as being a “gift”, we must have faith that ultimately, our love as a parent is the love that our children deserve and so desperately need to support them throughout their lives.
This love is truthfully “unconditional” and “eternal”. This love is not judgmental or unrealistic in what our expectations are for each other. We are who we are, parent and child. Prayer is an invincible tool that can carry us through Parenthood! Our children are counting on our prayers and actions to make this a world worthy of them and the gifts they have brought usto raise the consciousness of humanity.
Bana ke mpho e kgolo go di gaisa tsotlhe tse batho ba di neilweng.
Gompieno ke tlile go abelana karolo ya Kgaolo 11 ya buka ya me – “Embracing the Gift of Parenthood: How to Create a Loving Relationship with Your Children”.
Available: Amazon and Barnes and Noble as well as Xlibris.
Eno ke kgaogelo fela ya kgaolo e e latelang!
Gakologelwa
“Eno e ne e le nako ya leitlho la sefefo se se didimetseng sa bašwa le bosha jo bo sa siamang. Mongwe le mongwe mo lelapeng ga a tshwanela go falola fela, mme o tshwanetse go atlega!”
Mo lelapeng la rona go ne go sa fetoge gore re ka ikaega ka go re fa fatshe e ne e le…
“Batsadi ba rona ba ne ba nna pelotelele thata fa re ne re le basha ka botlalo. Le fa go ntse jalo, melao le melawana ya legae la rona ga e ise e fetoge. O ne o solofetswe gore o tshwanetse go rwala maikarabelo a a oketsegileng mo ditirong tsa gago.”
Kgaolo ya lesome le bongwe
Kamano e e sa Khutleng
Ke a lemoga
Ke a itse gore lorato lwa rona mo go yo mongwe le mongwe lo tla tswelela go feta botshelo jono le jo bo latelang mme se re se agang gompieno se tla nnela ruri.
Quotes:
Garrison Keillor o kile a re:
Gonne ga go na sepe se o ka se dirang gore bana ba gago ba se ka ba tlhola ba go direla bana ba gago. Ba lebega ba sa re lemoge, ba fofa, ba iphitlhela ba le mo matlhong, mme ga se gantsi ba leboga, mme se re ba direlang sone ga se senyege.
Mme Cécile Carter says:
“Go na le dikabelo di le pedi fela tse di nnelang ruri tse re ka solofelang go di naya bana ba rona. E nngwe ke medi; E nngwe, diphuka.”
Kahil Gibran o kile a re:
“Ga se bana ba gago; Ke bomorwa le bomorwadia botshelo jo bo tlhologeletsweng.”
Potso:
Ke dilo dife tse o ka di dirang jaaka motsadi le ngwana wa gago tse di tla nnelang ruri mo moweng wa gago ka bosakhutleng?
O ne a re: “Gone jaanong ke lebagane le kgang eno.” Ke leba, go tswa kwa ntle, botshelo jwa morwadiake jaaka mosetsana yo mmotlana, mme ke batla dilo tse di botlhokwa tse di re kopantseng botshelo jwa gagwe jotlhe. Ke leka go bona gore ke tsamaisana jang le botshelo jwa gagwe le tsela e a tshelang ka yone. Le fa go ntse jalo, motsadi mongwe le mongwe o tshwanetse go lebana le bothata jono ka dinako dingwe. Dumela fa ke re tsela e re tshwarang bana ba rona ka yone, e ka tswa e le dingwaga di le robongwe kgotsa di le masome a mabedi le borobongwe, e laolwa ke dilo di le dintsi. Ke go diretse lenaane le le motlhofo gore moragonyana o tle o kgone go bona gore o tshwanela kae mo thulaganyong ya dilo. Go tswa mo setlhopheng sa motho ka nosi, dintlha tseno ke tse di bonalang di ama le go tlhotlheletsa ditshwetso le tsibogo ya bokgoni jwa go nna motsadi jo bo fetogang ka dinako tsotlhe:
Bong
Morafe/morafe/mora
Culture / Unspoken Codes/ Voices of the Elders
Religion/ Spiritual intuitive gifts
Class
Thuto
Ethics
Megopolo ya sepolotiki
Kafa Batsadi ba me ba Ngodisitseng ka Gone
semelo sa me le botho jwa me
Tshekatsheko ya Setšhaba
Pitso ya me ya bofelo.
Ke ne ka go tlhagisa gore loeto lwa go nna motsadi lo ne lo se motlhofo. Go na le dilo di le dintsi tse di diragalang mo megopolong ya rona le mo dipelong tsa rona fa re ntse re tsamaya mo tseleng ya “go nna motsadi”. Ga re akanye gore re ipha nako ya go akanya ka gore ke eng re dira le go bua dilo tse re di dirang. Bontsi jwa se se diragalang mo kamanong ya rona le bana ba rona le mo tirong ya letsatsi le letsatsi ya go laola botshelo jwa lelapa la rona le ditiro tsa rona di dirilwe go tswa mo “phetogong”, go na le “thulaganyo ya go akanya”. Ka dinako tse dingwe fa re ntse re le mo matshelong a rona, re tshwanetse go akanya ka dilo tse re di tlhokang. Seno se raya gore fa re sa dire jalo ka nako eo, re ka nna ra se ka ra bona diphelelo tse re di batlang le tse ba di tlhokang mo go rona. Ga ke kgathale gore mongwe le mongwe o reng, loeto lono lwa go nna motsadi lo akaretsa dikgwetlho tse dintsi le diteko le diphoso. Ke karolo ya se re leng sone mo go se re se bidiwang “seemo sa motho”. Ga o tlhoke go itekanela, mme ke itumelela gore “Moya o Mogolo” ga o tlhoke go dira jalo. Le fa go ntse jalo, “Moya o o Molemo” o tlhoka gore re nne batsadi ba ba molemo go gaisa botlhe ba re ka kgonang go dira jalo.
Ke maiteko a a tswang pelong a “Moya o Mogolo” a a batlang le gore bana ba rona ba tshwanelwa ke go tswa mo go rona. Ke a itse gore re tla fenya kgwetlho e.
Fa ke leba kwa morago mo loetong lwa me jaaka motsadi, ke a itse gore ke dirile sengwe le sengwe se ke se tlhokang. Ke ne ka leka go nna moemedi mo loetong lwa ngwana wa me mo botshelong. Ke a itse gore ke dirile dilo tse di sa siamang, mme ga ke ikwatlhaele sepe ka gonne botsogo jwa gagwe e ne e le selo se se tlang pele mo botshelong jwa me. Fa rraagwe a ne a tlhokafala, ke ne ka ikana gore ga nkitla ke letlelela ope go tsena mo botshelong jwa me e e neng e tla dira gore ke se ka ka nna motsadi.
Ga ke reye gore batho ba bangwe ba tshwanetse go dira jalo, mme ke raya gore fa o le motsadi o tshwanetse go itlama gore ga o kitla o itlhokomolosa maikarabelo a gago a go godisa ngwana wa gago. Ke bone bana ba le bantsi ba bewa kwa thoko ka gonne dilo tse di tlang pele tsa motsadi e ne e le go dira gore monna kgotsa mosadi yo mongwe a nne le kamano ya bone. Le fa go ntse jalo, ke tshwanetse go dumela gore dikamano tseno di ka tla le go feta, mme kamano ya gago le ngwana wa gago e feta lesire. Bangwe ba akanya gore bana ba gago ba a gola mme ba go tlogela, mme fa o ba neetse tsotlhe, letsatsi lengwe o tla sala o le nosi. Ke a itse gore mo bathong ba bangwe, seno se ka lebega e le mokgwa wa go latlha. Ee, bana ba rona ba gola mme ba re tlogela, bangwe ka bonako go feta ba bangwe, mme mo ditsong le mo ditšhabeng di le dintsi, seno ga se solofelwe fela mme se a tlhokega.
Gape, ke dumela mo tekatekanyong. Ke akanya gore fa re itsise bagolo go tloga kwa tshimologong gore bana ba rona ba botlhokwa go le kana kang mo go rona, mme re ela tlhoko tsela e ba tsibogelang tsela e batsadi ba rona ba itshwarang ka yone, re tla itse gore a e tla nna kamano e e siameng mo bathong botlhe ba ba amegang. Ka metlha mmaagwe o ne a re: “Simolola ka tsela e o batlang ka yone.” A ga o rate “Mmè ka metlha o bua boammaaruri” mo bukeng eno? Go a utlwala mme fa re ikanyega mo go rona mme re batla go kgatlhegela bana ba rona le boitekanelo jwa malapa a rona, re itse sentle gore a motho yo mongwe mo kamanong o re siametse kgotsa nnyaa. Le fa go ntse jalo, re tshwanetse go nna re ‘tsogile’ mme re se ka ra ‘robala’ mo botshelong jwa rona. Ka jalo, fa e le gore tota ke boammaaruri gore kamano ya rona le bana ba rona ke mofuta wa kgolagano e e sa khutleng, re ka e tsenya jang mo maemong a tsela e re godisang, re e tlhokomelang le go boloka dielemente tsa kamano ya rona e e re tsamaisang mo bokiteng le jo bo sa siamang, ka tse di siameng le tse di bosula, go ralala bongwana le bogolo jwa bone, Botshelo jono le jo bo Tlang bo Tla
Sa ntlha, re tshwanetse go lemoga gore dielemente tseno ke dife mo kamanong ya rona le ba bangwe, mme morago re tshwanetse go bona gore re di dira jang, mme kwa bofelong re di boloka jang.
Potso:
Ke dilo dife tse di ka dirang gore motsadi le ngwana a nne le seabe mo kamanong ya gagwe?
A go bonala sentle gore ga ke kgone go tlogela didirisiwa tsa me tsa go ruta mo dikarolong tsotlhe tsa botshelo jwa me? Thanks for your patience in this process!! Le fa go ntse jalo, lenaane la me ke lenaane la me, mme ruri o tla nna le tshono ya go itirela la gago.
Dielemente tse di sa feleng tsa kamano ya motsadi le ngwana ke:
Lorato lo lo sa feleng
Lorato Lo lo Se Nang Tekanyetso
Lerato Kganyago With No Strings
Lorato Lefa
Lorato lo lo Se Nang Kgaogano
Lorato lo lo Boitshepo lo Bontshiwa mo Pelong e e Boitshepo
Lorato lo lo tla itshokela setlhabelo
Lorato lo lo lekaneng go ba naya botshelo
O ne A Rata Botshelo Jwa Gagwe
Go Rata go Nna Karolo ya Se ba Leng Sone
Ba ka nna ba go rata le go itse gore ba a go rata
LOVE –just pure love
Potso:
A o kgona go bona kafa dikarolo tseno tsa botsalano jwa batsadi le bana di leng botlhokwa ka gone mo go ageng motheo o o nnelang ruri?
