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I’m Just Sayin #147- It’s the Twinkle in Their Eyes- And It Is Magical- Voiced

I’m Just Sayin #147-

It’s the Twinkle in Their Eyes- And It Is Magical!

We never want that Light in their eyes to fade!

Thank God-Ua still has this twinkle in his eyes!

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It’s the twinkle in their eyes! It’s the twinkle that tells a very important story of how children see and react to the world.  It is the “Ah hah” moments in a child’s experiences that are moments of discovery and understanding.  It’s the time when they connect the dots.  It is so exciting and perhaps one of the most special moments that if you are lucky enough, you get a glimpse of their response, to those “Ah hah” moments or they come to you full of excitement and absolute feelings of self-satisfaction about something they have discovered or understand for the first time.  It is the stuff that builds their self-esteem and feeds their self-love. 

They need these moments when they are allowed to explore and experiment.  They find these discoveries of new understanding to be marvelous.  We on the other hand what we might see what they have unveiled as insignificant and non-essential, to our little explorers, these findings to them might be seen as being the greatest discovery to mankind.  Oh, my goodness it is so magnificent to be an observer and watch them in action.

 Can you remember any of this excitement in your childhood? Can you remember how you felt when you discovered something for the first time, and knew you had accomplished a magnificent feat all by yourself?  Do you still have those “Ah Hah” moments? Do you still get the twinkle in your eyes?  It is so important for us to still experience the wonder of exploring and discovering new elements in our world. There is a saying “There is always more truth and knowledge to learn”. 

Children are learning so much organically.  They see what we don’t see.  They hear what we don’t hear. Their 5 senses are on high alert. We are so busy being busy, that we miss so much of the finer nuances of the beauty and majesty of the world we live in.  If we tune into the wisdom we are supposed to hold, then we would tap into the wonderment of our childhood and see the world whenever we could, through the eyes of our inner child. Trust me you will find joy and contentment there!

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You, Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

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These Moments are precious! 

Don’t let time with them slip through your fingers!

Stay tuned in and be a “Presence” in their lives

and they will love and respect you forever.   

That twinkle in Celio’s eyes stirs the light in my soul.

 

 

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I’m Just Sayin-No! Why? Because… Nurturing and Guiding the Curious Mind and Behavior of a Child- #131

I’m Just Sayin-No! Why? Because… Nurturing and Guiding the Curious Mind and Behavior of a Child- #131

Setting Boundaries to Help Children Feel a Sense of Safety and Freedom at the Same Time. 

Uncle Markey is a “Key player” in Niki’s life to this day!

Remember-It is not just the responsibility of parents to guide and nurture our children- There has to be a village of extended family, friends, and a community of respectful, ethical, loving, and compassionate people that chose to be part of a child’s life!

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What we are really trying to do for and with children, is to guide them into an understanding that they must learn to make choices and decisions that will allow them to explore their world and at the same time keep them and others safe and secure. This period in their early life sets them up for the big challenges that will confront them in puberty and young adulthood and then impact all the decisional actions they make throughout their adult lives. 

 There is so much trial and error involved in this arena of learning. So much of what must transpire between parents and their children is founded on their style(s) of communication with each of their children.  There will inevitably be different styles of communication to meet the unique character of each of your children.

There has to be continuity in the boundaries and expected behavior, but how that is interpreted and communicated will vary. In other words-what works with my child X, will not in this instance work with my child Y.  It takes a lot of observation and forethought on designing how you are going to help guide your child into understanding the “No” Why? Because” of in life.

It is not realistic for a child to think that the word “No” does not apply to them under certain circumstances.  The important part of saying “No” to a child is to follow up with the “Why… and “Because…” so that we give them an understanding that there are reasons we make certain decisions. 

We want to encourage the curious minds that they were born with.  It is important to never kill that genius or invalidate the things they encounter and try out stemming from their curiosity and sense of exploration.  We are to guide them through this element of their development that will set the stage of how and why they make decisions throughout their life. We want them to be free within the boundaries that nature sets for them.

I believe in telling children about consequences and allowing the time and space to explore how consequences can affect their well-being, and the well-being of others.  Learning that our actions and decisions can have an impact on not just “me, myself and I”.  This also sets the stage for exploring how we are inner connected to one another.  They begin to become part of humanity.  They don’t understand what it means but there is a feeling that begins to grow and we must feed it with experiences where we call it to their attention.  

We want to guide them to the understanding that there is responsibility connected to freedom of expression. It is a long journey into this perspective on life, but what it affords not just the individual, but our humanity as a whole is priceless! It is what sustains, enriches, and fortifies our highest selves.

Our Motto- as a parent and givers of care and guidance to a child- I want to “Let Freedom Ring”- Within the understanding that ” There are consequences for my decisions”!

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You, Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/

 

 

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The Amazing -One Heart-Beat- Part 3

The Amazing -One Heart-Beat- Part 3

As our children evolve into more of the “Soul Spirit” that they were destined to express, we become as their parents more of who we are to be in their lives and more of who we are to be in our own lives! It is magical! It is a Spiritual Evolution!

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This is the third part of my stream of consciousness. I contemplated on what transpires next in this evolving relationship between our beloved children and ourselves. You see, it might change in texture and in context to the many things that captivate their attention and seem to carry them into a world without us.

This is all part of the divine plan. It all happens in stages of our life’s journey. We conceive, we carry them in our womb, we birth them, we deliver them, we care for them through their infancy, we guide them through childhood, we nurture them through puberty, we stand for them through their young adulthood. We are never really completely void of their essence in our lives and our essence will always be a part of their lives.

You see it is my feeling that the “umbilical cord has two separate dimensions. There is the physical form and the spiritual form. As part of the birthing process, the physical umbilical cord is cut. However, the spiritual cord continues to reside in the breath of life that developed in the sacred womb between mother and child. It is the element between mother and child that allows a mother to communicate with their child even when they are not in the same physical space. It is the element that translates their communication between each other. It senses when there is discord or when their child needs them.

 It translates the “looks” – “texture of the sound of their voice that tells mom when something is array. Fathers can develop their own connection with their child that is uniquely theirs, but it takes the investment of time and authentic love. I say authentic love because children have a 6th sense about people and know when they are truthfully themselves.

Children need the love expressions that both parents can offer because they are not the same. Every child will have a different relationship with each of their parents. So, I don’t want fathers to in any way think their love for their child is not essential! I just know that what a mother has experienced with the giving life to a child or taking on the role of a mother is inherently unique. The bottom line is that there will always be a connection between parent and child that is vital and eternal. It is a lifetime commitment.  Can I just add that I asked “Great Spirit” to bless me with a child, and I got just who I was suppose to gift life to.  

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

 

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/

 

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The Amazing -One Heart-Beat-Part 2 One Heart-Beat- Postpartum Depression- From a Spiritual Perspective.

One Heart-Beat-Part 2

One Heart-Beat- Postpartum Depression-    From a Spiritual Perspective.

I feel that we have uncovered the pain and darkness that takes hold of a mother and even a father, after the birth of their child.  We have studied and dealt with the causes and effects of the debilitating trauma of Postpartum on them as parents and actually can impact the baby and family unit as a whole. 

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Today I want to continue my stream of consciousness on another aspect of “One Heart-Beat”.  You see during my moment of experiential reflection with Leilani, I got another revelation, another vision of what is happening on another plane in terms of the spiritual implications of Postpartum. 

When I spoke to the connection and communication between mother and child in the womb, I realized that this connection of being the co-creator of a life that is flesh of your flesh and blood of your blood, is perhaps the deepest love that can exist in the human experience.  As a mother you carry this love in your heart and soul for 9-10 months as solitary partners. When the time comes and you must part from one another and your sacred space, there is pain in releasing this child that you have co-created, nurtured and prayed for. 

Yes, there is physical pain, but there is also spiritual pain. Pain of loss! Pain of the thought that now you are releasing your child to the world.  Thoughts of how you will protect them, and keep them safe rattle you to your core. You can feel at a lost. There are the feelings of loss of control that you had for them in the womb. It is like losing a part of yourself. It is grief in the midst of joy. 

It is courage in the face of fear.  It is harmony in your very being while living in dissonance.  I believe that we first respond to the world and the events and circumstances in our life on a spiritual plane, and then things are manifested on a physical, mental and emotional reality.  We therefore cannot fully understand the depths of this Postpartum trauma.

No one can dictate how you must process the experience and no one can tell you how to feel. We must be present for mothers and families that are in the midst of this out of body experience. We must not intrude but we must be vigilant in being accessible and empathic not sympathetic.

 So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

 **Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/

 

 

 

 

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The Amazing One Heart-Beat Part 1 -Voiced

One Heart-Beat-Part 1

Sometimes when I fall asleep, I drift back to your sacred womb from where we first met.
I remember it was there I had laid in our time and space when and where it was only you and I dear Mother, that kept me safe and secure from all harm.
Now I rest and snuggle in the warmth of your embrace, to face this world with you by my side.
I am never ever truly alone for I know that the love we share is divinely eternal and rest in the depths of our shared ” One Eternal Loving Heart-Beat”.

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One Heart-Beat

Part One

Years ago- almost five years now- I had an amazing experience.  I was sitting with my niece Leilani who was at the time pregnant with her third child- Aoluna, when I got a sensation or revelation of the powerful connection between Lei and A0luna! I don’t know why I had not seen this before. Perhaps it was to be in just this moment. It was like I was watching a conversation between just the two of them that was sacredly private.

Although Lei talked to her verbally all the time, this was a different kind of communication. It was like they were at this point A0luna’s development conjoined.  It was like although there were two hearts beating, in this sacred space there was also a heartbeat that they shared. There was in this private time, between Mother and child, “one heart-beat”. 

It felt like it would be an eternal heartbeat that they would share that connected them differently than any other relationship.  It was that connection where Mother will always know her child’s needs and that internal feeling mothers get when they sense their child needs them or is communicating with them on a highly evolved spiritual vibration. I often wondered why when my child, Nicole calls me on the phone, I know the texture of her ring, although I only have one ring tone. I know sometimes before she calls that she is going to call or text.  I know when she needs for me to check in.

Mothers are so blessed to have this sense or connection with their children.  It is a blessing that no matter what occurs in life, there will always be this eternal connection. We as mothers have a responsibility to this blessing!  We must acknowledge it and respond to it.  It is not by chance-it is by divine design. I feel so blessed to have seen this miracle! It was a gift!

There will be more to this revelation forth coming!!

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  I know now that no matter what the circumstances of our life and our birth, something transpires between mother and child at some point when we are anchored in our mother’s womb, that there is a soul heartbeat that is eternal and sacred.  That conjoining of the heart has nothing to do with the physical world, but everything to do with the world beyond the veil.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

 **Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/

 

 

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The View From Their Window- The Lens of Their Life’s Perspective Comes From Their Interpretation- Not Ours! Voiced

The View From Their Window-

The Lens of Their Life’s Perspective Comes From Their Interpretation- Not Ours!

There is Nothing Like Playing in the Rain!

Life’s journey, from a child’s perspective is their truth. 

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We learn as mothers and fathers that we must realize that no matter what we do in parenting, our children’s perspective, comprehension and interpretation of their early life and unfortunately sometimes adult experiences, are dealt with from a child’s maturity emotionally and spiritually and therefore can be limited and restrictive.  It can hamper their ability to evolve and grow into the completeness of their divinity.  This is why the development of their spirituality is critical.

We don’t want them living life in their pain bodies because it is all they see through the “window” from which they live and experience the nuances of their life. It does not serve them well. They have to know they have our support in helping them to do the “work” to be free.   They are worthy of truly loving themselves because from God’s perspective they are whole and complete.  

We must continue to pray and work for this enlightenment and transformation that can support the quality of our children’s lives. We must always be mindful of what our children are exposed to and if they ask puzzling questions, we must be there to help them process.  In a collaborative relationship we work with our children to provide tools by which they can utilize to effectively deal with and overcome any obstacles that might hinder their ability to be whole, healthy and happy human beings.  

There is no one set of tools that are appropriate for all children.  It takes parents really knowing the essence of who their child is to discern what tools they can offer their child. It’s not about “coping skills”, it’s about helping children know themselves to the point that they can navigate life with a new lens when they look through the “View from their window”. 

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day! 

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity. 

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”. 

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/ 

 

 

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“I AM”- Loveable. Words To Live By and Share With Our Children

“I AM”- Loveable- Words to Live By and Share With Our Children.   Life Time Affirmations to Live By-

As a “Global Community” we need to foster positivity and lessons of how to cultivate good self-esteem in our children so that they are in alignment with humility and compassion.  This is a practice that we never outgrow.  Ashé!

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Have you ever thought about the possibility that as our children watch us navigate our lives, they are tuning into how we feel about ourselves and consequently, we are teaching them how to feel about themselves?

Our Children are always on our minds!

I AM LOVABLE

I AM COURAGEOUS

I AM CAPABLE

I LOVE TO LEARN

I LOVE TO PLAY AND HAVE FUN

I TAKE CARE OF MY BODY

I TAKE CARE OF THE WORLD AROUND ME

I LOVE OTHERS AS THEY ARE

I AM GENTLE AND STRONG

I LIKE TO SHARE WITH OTHERS

I AM KIND

I AM FULL OF JOY

I AM SPECIAL AND UNIQUE

I AM PROUD TO ME

I AM BEAUTIFUL

I AM POSITIVE

I LIKE TO DO MY BEST

I AM POLITE AND THOUGHTFUL OF OTHERS

I AM COOPERATIVE

I TRUST MYSELF

I RESPECT MYSELF

I CAN BE CALM AND RELAXED BECAUSE I AM IN TUNE WITH MY EMOTIONS

I CAN BE PEACEFUL INSIDE AND OUT IN ORDER TO KEEP MY PEACE AND SHARE MY PEACE

I AM THANKFUL AND I LIVE MY LIFE FROMA A PLACE OF GRATITUDE

IMAGINE IF WE THOUGHT THESE THINGS AND LIVED THESE THINGS- WHAT MIGHT OUR CHILDREN LEARN FROM THIS MODALITY OF LIVING LIFE?  AND REMEMBER- THERE IS ALWAYS MORE TRUTH AND KNOWLEDGE TO BEHOLD IN LIFE!

 

So, breathe deeply! Close your eyes and visualize something that brings you back into homeostasis with your soul expression.  May today bring you a sense of peace, joy, and moments of feeling loved and validated for who you are and what you are gifting humanity.

Ashé! Have a Blessed Day!

**Note: These recordings are based on my blog writings, and all of this comes through Spirit.  The recordings are a reflection of the writings and are not edited because I do not want to alter what is coming to me through “Great Spirit”.  I am not seeking perfection, only serving as a vessel to bring love, peace, and joy, to our humanity.

Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

Stay in Touch:          http://heart4kidsadvocacy.org/

 

 

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Tiny Tips 4 Moms and Dads #9- The Balancing Act to Make Sure Your Child’s Needs Are In Alignment –

Tiny Tips for Mom’s and Dad’s #9

It’s a Necessary Balancing Act to Make Sure Your Child’s Physical and Emotional Environment are Conducive to the Nature of “Your Child”.

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It is important that a child be surrounded by loved ones that are in tune to the nature of who they are and can respond to them in ways that meet their needs appropriately.

We as parents, caregivers, and nurturers have a responsibility to study our children very consistently and intentionally.  It is so important in terms of trying to learn the nature of who they are and what they need to flourish and become their divine and authentic selves in the world in which they will have to navigate their lives.  They must grow into confidence, self-acceptance, and most importantly-loving and respecting themselves.  Obviously, we play a huge part in crafting and designing the physical environment that our children live and play in, but even more critical is what the environments are that impact them emotionally.  Children do a lot of adapting to things and people and we have to be sensitive to how much we are expecting of them to do that.

We must be mindful of who we engage them with and if certain people illicit a positive or negative response from them.  I want to be clear!!! Children vibrate at a much higher vibrational level than we do.  Their senses are acute and highly sensitive to every sound, texture, and soul vibration that they encounter.  They don’t operate with the protective defensive filters that we create for ourselves as we evolve through our lifetime experiences.  Children are raw!! Children are clear!! Children are open and vulnerable to what comes into the sphere of their being.

They only have us to help support and protect them, until they mature to a space where they can ward off or articulate what they are or not comfortable with.  I actually have witnessed an infant become traumatized every time one of our friends would approach the front door.  She sensed something that she was uncomfortable with, and this happened every time!  Children can recognize the soul expression of people and they respond accordingly. Take note my friends and be sensitive to what they are expressing to you.

My other concern is that we make sure that in our daily activities that we engage children in support them having a balance of physically active activities and quiet reflective activities where they can sit and gather their thoughts and center their energy so that they don’t fall into a situation where they are always on high gear”.  There has to be high energy and quiet spaces in their daily routine. The activities they engage in and the spaces in which they engage, must compliment what is needed for their well-being.

It is our responsibility to make sure we provide the spaces to be in full physical expression as well as the quiet gentle places that they can retreat to.  One of those quiet, gentle, safe places just might be in your arms! It’s a balancing act! Also remember that no two children are alike, so you will have to support each child according to their unique divine identity.  It is a beautiful journey this “parenthood” and just think-you have been given the “Gift”!

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Thank You Jim Brickman for your beautiful music that vibrates through this recording. This is a selection from his album – “Music to Quiet Your Mind and Sooth Your World”.

 

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Tiny Tips 4 Moms and Dads #6-Parents Have to Make Time for “Time In”!

Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads # 6 – Parents Have to Make Time for “Time In”!

We need to support our children in expressing what they need from us.  It is important to give each child a “Sacred-Time In” with us!

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What does it mean this “Sacred -Time In”?  We all hear the about the punitive “Time Out”, that we as Early Childhood educators and children advocates deem- inappropriate!  In contrast to that “Time In”, refers to having an alone time, a special time, a mommy and me or daddy and me time.  It is the time that holds the opportunity for re-connection between parent and child.  It is the time for taking walks, going to the park to play, having meals together, reading stories, playing games, answering questions that have been on their mind, being completely and utterly available and attentive to “Just them”! It is about setting aside intentionally, time and space for them.  It is not getting on the phone or any other device that would distract you from being totally “present”.

I think perhaps that we feel that we are spending time with our children just by being in the same place at the same time.    The reality is, just because we are “With them”, it does not mean we are “Into Them”.  I observe my niece with her children, and she has made it clear with her children that if they need to have a “Special Day” or “Special Time” with her, all they need to do is to express their needs.  Together, she and her child or children have learned to ask for what they need.  In turn she and the child pick a day, make a list of the “To Do Things”, and seal it with a kiss. Snuggling is always part of the day’s agenda!  Lots of hugs and kisses!

 

Now of course there has to be a plan, not that it is written in stone!  But start out contemplating what you have the time and energy for before you even begin to enter into this contract because children are relentless!  When you make a promise be ready to keep it!  I would strongly suggest the following steps to this adventure into the “Sacred Time In” proposal:

  1. Figure out what you have the time and energy to invest in.
  2. Pick the date and time.
  3. Make sure you have taken care of yourself first so that you are really up to the adventure!
  4. With your child, or children, plan out the activities and evaluate what is and is not feasible in your “Sacred Time In”! Don’t overstretch yourself!! Sometimes it is better to take on one or two things to do and spread it out over a day or perhaps 2 days.  If you do too much you run the risk of things falling apart!
  5. Stay attentive and sensitive to your child’s energy as well. Sometimes they have big ideas but because they are children, just like you they get tired.  Look for the signals and if necessary, change plans that include postponing things, choosing other less strenuous activities, or just implement “snuggle time”-reading/ watching a show together/playing a game together.
  6. It is really ok to also admit that you are tired and need to call your won “Time In” to catch your breath and recharge. It works both ways, but you have to start out the way you want to end up.
  7. At the end of the “Sacred Time In”, set up a time when you can have a re-cap chat and talk about: What you both liked/What you did not like/What you would like to do again and even differently.
  8. Remember to take pictures so you have memories and for older children they could have a journal to write their memories in with pictures.

Trust me when I say these “Sacred Time In” events, will add so much to your relationship with your child!  Every child wants to feel they are special to their mommie and daddy!

It’s quite the balancing act, but somehow Lei pulls it off!

And now Aoluna is in the mix too.

One day at a time!!

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Tiny Tips 4 Moms and Dads-#2- It’s a Big Job-But Somebody Has To Do It!

Tiny Tips for Moms and Dads#2

  It’s a big job-But Somebody Has to Do it!

         Clueing Into the Influencers in Our Child’s Life!

Oh, this is a big one in raising children!  We have to be constantly concerned that the people we are surrounding our children with, and even the people that are acquaintances are vetted by us.  I know to use the terminology- “vetted” seems serious, but if we do not take a serious look at the people that are influencing our children, we are leaving to chance, what their impact might be on not just them physically, but emotionally and psychologically!  There are also “Influencers” that impact our children in social media, and television content in programs that are geared for children.  These are times where the social engagement with children is off the chart in terms of securing their safety.  We as parents are the ones that are responsible for their safety and yes, it is a lot of work, but we have no choice!  We have to screen what they are exposed to in the world of technology.

There are so many hidden messages that are infused in what is supposed to be “children’s programing”, that I strongly suggest that if you are allowing your children to watch TV, or use the computer, that you not only set up guidelines of the “To do’s and the Not to do’s”, but that you are present in the room, or taking the time to engage in the watching of the tv program.  It is important for you to be eyes and ears, in what your child is being exposed to.  It is important that if questions come up in the process, that you are there to engage in the conversation.  The right information at the right time of your individual child’s maturation, is key to safeguarding your child’s innocence, and capability of processing information.  Have you ever observed that your child even has an emotional reaction to certain music. I observed that our kids get very sensitive to music in minor keys. Take note!

 

Then there is the interest and concern about who are the influencers that engage in our child’s life, and I don’t mean just friends and acquaintances!  Who are the members of our family that will be a positive stake holder in our child life and development?  Who are the family members who are healthy in mind, body, and spirit, that we can trust will lovingly and earnestly engage with our children appropriately?  Will they study the nature of our child and be willing to engage with them for “Who they are”?  Will they say and do things for them that will build their self-esteem and anchor them in loving and respecting themselves?

Will they make the time and spend the energy to “think before they speak” so that they say things that are context and content appropriate?  Will they be willing to share their knowledge, wisdom, and the legacy of your family that will ground them in pride, self-confidence, and respecting the value and legacy of your family?  Will they be truthful and respectful, and be adult enough in their own identity, that they realize that they must make sure that what they share with your child, has been sanctioned by you, as their parents.

 

Survey your family, and without bias and judgment but with wisdom and forethought decide who you feel safe engaging with your child!  Sometimes it is a very simple, statement, that someone can say to your child that is not being said with malice or thoughts of hurting them, but once said, it enters the psyche of a child, and believe me when I tell you it never leaves!  Somehow and at some time it will surface and color some essence of their life memory bank.  It is amazing how little things done and said in childhood can weave into some aspect of who we see ourselves or others as. Wow!  Parenthood is no joke, but “Great Spirit” is always there to support us if we but tune into the vibration!

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