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One Heart Beat- Postpartum Depression-    From a Spiritual Perspective.

I feel that we have uncovered the pain and darkness that takes hold of a mother and even a father, after the birth of their child.  We have studied and dealt with the causes and effects of the debilitating trauma of Postpartum on them as parents and actually can impact the baby and family unit as a whole.  Today I want to continue my stream of consciousness on another aspect of “One Heart Beat”.  You see during my moment of experiential reflection with Leilani, I got another revelation, another vision of what is happening on another plane in terms of the spiritual implications of Postpartum. 

When I spoke to the connection and communication between mother and child in the womb, I realized that this connection of being the co-creator of a life that is flesh of your flesh and blood of your blood, is perhaps the deepest love that can exist in the human experience.  As a mother you carry this love in your heart and soul for 9-10 months as solitary partners. When the time comes and you must part from one another and your sacred space, there is pain in releasing this child that you have co-created, nurtured and prayed for.  Yes there is physical pain, but there is also spiritual pain. Pain of loss! Pain of the thought that now you are releasing your child to the world.  Thoughts of how will you protect them, and keep them safe rattle you to your core. You can feel at a lost. There are the feelings of loss of control that you had for them in the womb. It is like losing a part of yourself. It is grief in the midst of joy.  It is courage in the face of fear.  It is harmony in your very being while living in dissonance.  I believe that we first respond to the world and the events and circumstances in our life on a spiritual plane, and then things are manifested on a physical, mental and emotional reality.  We therefore cannot fully understand the depths of this Postpartum trauma.

No one can dictate how you must process the experience and no one can tell you how to feel. We must be present for mothers and families that are in the midst of this out of body experience. We must not intrude but we must be vigilant in being accessible and empathic not sympathetic.