Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

Today I encountered another discussion on Facebook that I could not resist responding to. 

I am sure there have been devastating experiencing that people have been subjected to when engaged in the trauma of divorce!  There is no win -win situation when people dissolve a marriage, especially when children are involved.  Even when in some circumstances it might seem that one partner has gotten everything their way, ultimately there are emotional scars. And strangely enough sometimes people think they have moved on in their life unscathed but truthfully, they live their life responding to life through the mark of those scars.  No one truly gets away with not operating their life in integrity or breaking the trust of “agreements”.

 “A no fault divorce”, does not in truth mean that both partners have not had their own stuff impact a relationship.  Many times, we are not completely ourselves in our relationships.  Sometimes that is part of what happens when an agreement is broken.  We must be ourselves to be honest and forthright in our relationships.  Pretending to be someone you are not, or being someone, you think someone else wants, never works, it is not sustainable.  I think this works both ways.  This issue is who is going to be held responsible for caring for the child- children. If both parents are loving and responsible adults it would be optimum for them to co-parent their children! There is also an underlying problem here as well that impacts the children in this kind of broken, dishonest, and unhealthy relationship!

Apparently, when someone steps out of their vows of commitment you are dealing with a person whose character is questionable. Being in relationship with someone that engages in this kind of behavior shows signs of not being equally yoked! People need to live their lives being first honest with themselves. Who that person you get involved with does not all of a sudden up and become another person. That person who demonstrates those qualities was there from the beginning of your relationship.

We have to live with our hearts but think and respond with our brain! If the two are not in alignment and we ignore either aspect of our being, we miss the truth of who we are choosing and what we are worthy of! We can’t live in a place of regret, blame, or anger. Nothing is a mistake. What we experience in life are the lessons of our life’s contract to support our spiritual growth! If we live in constant dis-ease, eventually it will result in physical and spiritual disease! We can’t live and thrive in our pain bodies, that was never the intention of our divine soul’s journey! Move on to the good you deserve! Grab the happy and loving things that are there for you when you shed the pain and execute the freeing agent of forgiveness! It will be amazing how your life will move in a new and joy filled direction, void of pain and fear! Remember, It begins with forgiveness, and that includes starting by being compassionate and forgiving to yourself.