Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

So many of as parents fall into the habit of thinking we have the responsibility of perceiving who our children are and try to reconstruct their character traits and personality.  It is a misconception to think that we have the responsibility much less the authority of imposing our design on a creation that is perfection.  Remembering that no two people are alike, and that “Great Spirit” does not design carbon copies of His creations.  I know sometimes we engage with our children or observe them in action and say to ourselves, “Oh my goodness, Johnny is just like me when I was a child”, I know what he is thinking and going to do before he even does it”!  No!  No! No! 

You might have had similar experiences, but you never know what another person is thinking or what makes them react to something the way they do.  Our thoughts reside in our minds, colored by what we are feeling and experiencing at the time.  Our past experiences also impact our thoughts and actions.  Children are not as consistent as adults.  Children are still in a discovering mode of their identity, and they are therefore able to be more flexible, spontaneous, and creative in living” in their life”.  They are not bound by what other people think or expect them to be. 

Their gifts of discernment and ability to be by nature, uninhabited and organic, allows them the freedom to be who they want to be in any situation.  They are not stuck into an identity that has been redesigned and reconstructed by others until we interfere and try to make them someone they are not!   I suggest we stay clear of trying to see ourselves or anyone else in our children, because truthfully, “they are their own person”!  Wait! Observe! Enjoy!  Discover the beauty of your child!