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The original language and code for communicating between parent and child actually starts in the womb. It is a sacred language that is eternal and somehow no matter where the parent and child is there is communication being transmitted on a primal and intuitive vibrational wavelength.  Things are felt and communicated without a word being said.  I always recommend that both parents communicate with the child during pregnancy, and that if there are siblings, they to talk to the baby that is developing in the womb as well.   I know from experience that babies hear those voices and begin to develop a knowingness and connection with those special voices that reach out to them.  The words we use, the tone we use, the texture of our voices, are felt and responded to. 

We as family members have an opportunity to create a “family language or code” that is unique to our family.  It is the language of protection.  It is the language of feelings and emotions.  It is the language of physical needs. It is the language of approval and acceptance.  It is the language of “love”.  There are different parts to this language that we use to communicate with each other.  There are physical words.  There are facial expressions.  There is body language.  There is the intuitive language that we tune into even when we are not physically present with one another.  This is the language that supports a “safe space” for children to express themselves and know that they will be heard, felt, and responded to.  This language is timeless and bonds the family in ways that cannot be explained but can be felt. It offers a unique sense of security that follows us into adulthood.  The words might evolve, but the overall texture and validity of its importance and relevance in our lives never diminishes.  I know when my daughter is anxious or drained from the weight of her job.  I can feel it without seeing her or talking to her.  She knows when something is troubling me.  It is embedded in our “Love language”. 

Families that practice this “Love language”, have the strength to meet the challenges of this world, because they know that they are not facing anything alone!  The real beauty of this practice is that as it evolves, it only becomes richer in its ability to go on a deeper more spiritual context.  What I have found is that over the years as my friends have engaged in our family, they have been drawn to the way we love and care for each other.  We have been able to share who we are because of how we were raised in this “Love language”. 

Each family must create, design, and manifest the “Love language” that speaks to who they are and who they want to be. Every family is unique and how they communicate with each other must fit the construct of their family dynamics.  It will be different for each family but just as meaningful and rewarding for those that engage in that language and commit to it. I bet if you reflect on it, you too have a special line of communication that is used in your family.  Seek out the cues of communication and rejuvenate it!  Besides the serious part of this, it can also be fun to have a secret sacred way to communicate and relate to each other with.