Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

It is so important as human beings to be able to know confidently that we are “good company”, and that we can really be ok, enjoying our own company.  It requires that our children are given opportunities to play by themselves and engage in imaginative play activities all by themselves.   It means that we nurture them in believing in themselves and knowing that there are times that they will have the choice of playing and being by themselves, and there will be times where in terms circumstances they will not have a choice and that does not have to be a challenge. 

Again, we have to demonstrate our ability to be okay sitting down reading a book, putting on some music to listen to, or watch a good movie.  It could be working in your garden, engaging in an artistic activity or investing your time an energy in your favorite hobby.  These could be categorized as adult activities, but just seeing their parents doing fun things by themselves will hopefully inspire them to find fun things of their choice to do on their own because it makes then happy and fulfilled.  It is of course important for them to have a balance between being in their own company and sharing their company with others. 

We don’t want them isolating themselves or withdrawing from engaging with other people-children, because we want them to have healthy social emotional skills.  We are just encouraging them to love and appreciate themselves and to carry that sense of self and grounding with them in any situation.  We want them to be know that they are “Enough” because of who they are-period! “To thine own self be true” -Be their beautiful authentic divine identity. This is an important life skill for all children- children with no siblings as well as children with siblings. Another good thing about being able to be ok being and doing things alone sometimes is that it will support the need for you and your children to- “Care for Self” and be comfortable doing it!