Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

I know parenthood can be so scary!  I would be lying if I said that I too had moments of fear during the first few months of my daughter’s life.  And I need to add there have been moments throughout my journey as a parent that I had fleeting moments of fear that rocked my world. I don’t think there is a parent on the face of this earth that have not experienced “moments-times” when they were engulfed in fear and felt that they had no control of a situation that could be harmful to their child.  This is not something that we experience only during their childhood!  I don’t care how old are children are, we never stop being connected, caring, and intuitively knowing when they need us.  We have to remember who we are to our children and call on our intuitive wisdom and life experiences to nurture and guide them through their childhood. 

When they come to us as adults, we need to draw on those same tools to lend them an attentive ear, an objective engaging conversation, and guide them into a resolve that resonates with them.  It is great to read books on parenting, take parenting classes, go to our extended family and the ‘village” that supports our family and children and engage in parent groups where they share their experiences, but ultimately, we have to draw on what we feel in our gut, and step out on faith that what tools we chose to use to guide our children, will be what they need at that time and in that particular situation. 

We all will have missteps, and sometimes not get the results we had hoped for- but if it always worked out perfectly, we would be living in an illusion, because our human condition does not operate in or with perfection.  I don’t think we would even be happy if we lived in a state of perfection, which is a clue that we as parents, do not expect perfection from our children or ourselves.  Do your best!  Be your best! Be you! Be your values, mores, morals, and ethics.  Be what you dream for your children with even more self-love and patience.