Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

Children are so forgiving!  At least when they are children, they love us unconditionally. They are so understanding and patient with who we are and I think it is because they see who we are authentically.  I do believe that sometimes they probably look at us and wonder what planet we came from, but during their period of innocence they just roll with us.  They don’t get caught up in all the stuff that plagues us and steals our attention to the point that we are sometimes out of sorts and overwhelmed.  I know there are probably times they wish that things could just be balanced and in control so that they can depend on being responded to in a way that makes them feel that “we got our stuff under control and are not going to take it out on them”, but slowly and surely, they begin to understand that it is not about them, especially if you have an open and receptive relationship.

We don’t lay our burdens down at the feet of our children, or include them in sensitive adult conversations, but is important for them to know that when we are in the midst of a challenge not to worry, because we have the skills and tools to work through “our stuff” and they are safe and secure no matter what is brewing in our “Adult Pot”!  There are times when we can include them in our processing system when it is age and content appropriate.  Seeing us in action and getting a resolve and solution to situations, is an important in their social-emotional skill set.

Remember, our connection to our children is a “soul” connection, grounded in “love”.  It is a “soul to soul” love engagement and covenant.  This does not mean that as we-parents and our children-don’t we grow and evolve. We all change in our general character traits, but the core of who we are is always there. We remain in love and love the “divine authentic person” no matter what transpires in our lives.  It is a big job sometimes parents!  But we are called to be special soul connections for our children.  They are counting on this from us even if they don’t articulate it or for that matter, even if they are unaware of how precious and sacred that connection is between us.  You know, it is really pretty awesome to be loved and accepted for who you are!