Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

Sometimes as parents and caregivers we are under the misconception that it is our responsibility to shape and mold our child’s identity.  This could not be more far from the truth!  Yes ,we are to nurture, guide, and protect them so that they evolve into happy, whole, and healthy adults, but as for trying to re-shape the “Divine Identity” that they are born into, that is not our job!  What we are to do is provide the opportunities, experiences, environments, and exposure to people and situations, that will allow them to discover things about themselves.  Let me inform you that when children are born, they have the most authentic memory of who they are to be and what they are to do as their purpose on this life’s journey.  What they do in our time with them as children, is to craft and polish the essence of their being. 

If they are allowed to explore and experiment on this “spiritual path” that has been ordained to them, they will come into themselves as they were designed to be.  Each child brings with the support of their family will blossom into the fullness of who they need to be in order to love themselves, respect themselves, honor themselves, and reap the beauty of their endowment.

It is so exciting and amazing to be a part of their life’s journey!  It is a privilege to be given the opportunity to watch and engage in their discoveries about themselves and the world they live in.  To witness the joy, they feel and the way in which they receive what they discover is for us a parents and caregivers, a gift within itself. 

I would not trade seeing my own child’s interactions with the world, and her self-discovery for anything in the world.  The perfection of this experience is not about the “what” they discover, as much as them being able to be comfortable and receptive to what they encounter.  Life has its ups and downs, and it’s good and it’s bad, and what we want for our children is their ability to process whatever comes their way.  We want them to know that in the end of each experience and engagement in their life, the bottom line is, they are in charge of who they are and how they respond to each discovery and challenge.  It is their life and their choice to be in the fullness of who they are.  We just want them to “be themselves”!