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Into endiyithandayo kwaye ndiyihloniphayo malunga “nokholo” lomntwana kukuba ikrwada, iyinyani, icacile, ayicocwanga kwaye ayinamsebenzi wokuxhatshazwa kuba isekwe kwindalo yabo yokwenyani kwaye idityaniswe “noMthombo” apho bavela khona.  Njengamazwi kaCarolyn Haywood, “Abantwana abamsulwa kuphela kwaye banomdla kodwa banethemba kwaye bayavuya kwaye bonwabile.  Ngamafutshane, yiyo yonke into abantu abadala abanqwenela ukuba babe yiyo. ”  Abazange bangcoliswe kwimeko yabo yendalo, abanazintloni okanye abaneentloni ngezinto okanye abantu abanokholo kubo.  Bahlala beqinile ekuzibopheleleni kwabo ekuzimiseleni “kukholo” lwabo.  Abantwana, ngokungafaniyo nabantu abadala, akufuneki basebenze ekuphumezeni “ukholo” lwabo kwaye “bathembeke”.  Nje ukuba bakholelwe kwinto okanye komnye umntu, babambelela ngokuqinileyo kuloo nkolelo de kube ngabantu abadala okanye iimeko abantu abadala abahlakulela ukutshabalalisa inkolelo yabo okanye “Ukholo” kwinto ethile, bangene kwihlabathi labo elingcwele kwaye baphazamise ubumsulwa babo bobuntwana. 

Ukuba sicofa kumntwana wethu wangaphakathi ohlala ngaphakathi kwethu, nokuba singcwatywe nzulu ngaphakathi komphefumlo wethu, siya kufumanisa “iNyaniso” yethu eyikhono lethu lokuthembela ekuqondeni kwethu kwaye senze ukhetho olufanelekileyo lokuba yintoni kwaye ngubani oza kuba “nokholo” kuye.  “Ukholo oluqolileyo luphinda lufumane ubulumko bomntwana kodwa lunzulu ziintlambo esihambe kuzo” ezinokubonwa njengamathuba okukhula kumandla ethu okuba ngumntu “wokholo” okanye “othembekileyo” njengophawu lobuntu bethu.  Njengomntu omdala nangona kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha ukubambelela “kuKholo” lwethu, njengokholo ekwazini ukuba eli xesha lesiphithiphithi kunye nesiphithiphithi esijamelana nalo kwihlabathi liphela, liya kudlula kuthi kwaye liya kwenza oko ngokungenelela kwe “Umoya omkhulu”, kunye nookhokho bethu. 

Ukuba ‘nokholo’ kulwazi olunjalo kunempembelelo kubomi bethu bonke.  Ndiyakholelwa ukuba inamandla okuphakamisa umoya wethu obuyisela ukuxhasa umzimba wethu, impilo-ntle yeemvakalelo, kunye nokusebenza kwamandla ngokomoya.  Sidinga uphawu olunamandla ukholo kunye nokuthembeka okunokuba nawo kumava ethu obomi.  Kunzima kakhulu ukuba “uthembekile” kuye nabani na okanye nantoni na kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, kodwa ukuba sibeka ukholo lwethu kwiimpawu zento “uMoya omkhulu” asinike yona ukuba siyilandele kwaye siyithembe, “Ukholo” lwethu luyaqhubeka lukhula kwaye lukhula apho siya kufumana uxolo olungaphaya kokuqonda konke kwaye yonke into iya kuba ngolungelelwaniso lukaThixo.  Ndifuna ukwabelana nawe ukuba kubalulekile ukuba ube “nokholo” ekwazini ukuba ihlabathi “lizalwa inyani entsha eya kubandakanya uthando, uvuyo, uxolo, imfesane kunye nobulungisa”.  Bambelela “kukholo lwakho”, luyasebenza!