Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

What does it take and whom must you be to serve children as their teacher?

You must be nonjudgmental otherwise you have closed the door to dialog and communication.

In our human condition it is so hard to avoid being judgmental and bias in our conscious and unconscious mindset.  We cannot create and sustain a relationship with children if we let are biases, preconceived, already listening voices, and made up our mind stifle and dismantle our ability to communicate successfully with children we are in service to.  If children feel that you are closed off and that we are not earnestly listening to them and they can count on you to be open, accessible, and just in your response to them, they will shut down. 

When children find an adult with a vibration of judgement that excludes their feelings and concerns, they resist confiding in them and as a teacher, you lose a very important and beautiful relationship, besides the opportunity of being able to teach and mentor that child.  Communication that is respectful and sensitive builds trust and a two-way communication channel.  We owe it to the children we serve in our classrooms to demonstrate integrity and compassion in our relationship with them.  We are the ones that teach ethics and how it is important to be trustworthy and fair in our relationship with one another.  

 They are so observant and sensitive to what is transpiring in their environment and with our interactions with them.  They see everything that goes on in the classroom.  They hear everything that is said in the classroom.  They feel the vibration that engulfs the atmosphere of the classroom.  You have to be real with children because they intuitively know if you are authentic or not.  Communication with children in your classroom is the foundation of your relationship with them and is the critical modalities of teaching.  If there is a gap in your ability to relate to and communicate with children because of the tendency to fall into a trap of letting your biases and inability to be non-judgmental, this is a serious area of your character development to set an intention to work on.  Children deserve the best of who you are and who you have the potential of being.