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Abantwana sesona sipho sikhulu kuluntu.

Yintoni efunekayo kwaye kufuneka ube ngubani ukuze ukhonze abantwana njengomfundisi wabo?

Namhlanje ndiza kwabelana ngesicatshulwa seSahluko 4 sencwadi yam- “Ukwamkela isipho sokuba ngumzali: Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obunothando nabantwana bakho”.

Iyafumaneka: IAmazon kunye neBarnes kunye neNoble kunye neXlibris.

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Indlela Yokumkholisa Umntwana Wakho

U-Niki usebenza kwindawo yokuzivocavoca

Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bafunde indlela yokunxibelelana nabanye abantwana.  Kuya kufuneka ubanike ithuba lokudlala nabanye abantwana kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neendawo zentlalo. Ukuzivocavoca okucwangcisiweyo kunye nokungacwangciswanga kubalulekile kwintlalo-ntle yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo zabantwana bethu.

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Indlela Yokumkholisa Umntwana Wakho

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Ndiyaqonda ukuba ulindele ukuba ndikuthande, ndikukhokele, ndikuxhase, kwaye ndikuqeqeshe, ngokungaguquguqukiyo nangokuqhubekayo.  Ndiyaqonda ukuba kufuneka ndilandele oko ndikuvakalisayo ukuba yinyani, ubulungisa, ingqibelelo, kunye nothando lokwenene kuwe, ukuze ekugqibeleni uphuhlise ingqiqo yakho yokuqonda kunye nemilinganiselo.

Icaphula:

U-Eda Leshan wakha wathi:

“Ukuba ngabantu abadala abanoxanduva akusekho mcimbi wokuba abantwana baxhoma iipajama okanye babeke iitawuli ezimdaka kwi-hamper, kodwa ukuba bayazikhathalela kunye nabanye – nokuba bayayibona imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla inxulumene nendlela esiyiphatha ngayo le planethi.”

Umbuzo:

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuqeqesha umntwana?

Lo mbuzo uya kuba nefuthe kwizinto ezisisiseko zokwakha ubudlelwane kunye nomntwana wakho.  Igama elithi uqeqesho livela kwingcambu: umfundi – okuthetha umfundi okanye umlandeli wotitshala okanye imfundiso.

Ngokutsho kweWebster’s Dictionary kukho ezinye iinkcazo ezinomdla ezinje: Uqeqesho olucwangcisiweyo nolungqongqo lwamandla engqondo, okuziphatha, kunye nomzimba ngokufundisa kunye nokuzivocavoca; Ukuzibamba.

          Xa ndicinga ukuba yintoni ingcambu yegama elithi uqeqesho, andikwazi ukunceda kodwa ndivakalelwa kukuba esi sisitshixo sendlela esifanele siyikhumbule xa siqeqesha abantwana bethu.  Isiseko soqeqesho kufuneka sibone abantwana bekwimeko yokulandela ukhokelo okanye umzekelo wethu.  Uqeqesho akufuneki luthathwe njengesohlwayo.  Inkcazo kaWebster ichaza ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Kufuneka sicinge ngabazali kunye nootitshala njengezikhundla zobunkokeli kubomi babantwana.  Le ndima njengenkokeli ibeka incasa eyahlukileyo kwindlela esijonga ngayo uqeqesho.  Luxanduva lwakho ukuxelisa indlela yokuziphatha oyilindeleyo kubantwana bakho.  Awukwazi ukuthetha into enye kwaye emva koko ekuphenduleni ihlabathi, ubonise into engafanelekanga kwaye engathandekiyo.  Eyona ndlela yokuziphatha efihlakeleyo inika umyalezo kumntwana oqapheleyo.  Amaxesha amaninzi, asiqapheli ukuba bayasiva okanye basijonge kwikona yamehlo abo.  Uya kumangaliswa ukuba sicinga ukuba sinokuphepha ukuba bayazi yonke into.  Buza utitshala womntwana wakho ukuba abelane ngezinye zeengxoxo abazivayo kwiindawo zokudlala ezimangalisayo eklasini, okanye kwindawo yokudlala xa bezama ukuchukumisa oontanga babo.  UMama wathi, “Lumka into oyithethayo noyenzayo, kuba ingabuyela ikukukhathaza”.  Njengabazali, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba singumzekelo ophambili, kwaye sihlala sijongwa.

Bazali, bazali, nilahlekelwe yilungelo elininzi lobumfihlo obupheleleyo. Lo msebenzi wokuba ngumzali usisa kwindawo apho kufuneka siguquke khona.  Okungakumbi kulindeleke kuthi nakuthi ngabantwana bethu nakuluntu ngokubanzi.  Asisekho uxanduva lwethu kuphela.  Sinetyala kubantwana bethu ukuba babe ngumntu wethu ophezulu.  Anditsho ukuba asityibiliki ngamaxesha athile, kodwa kufuneka sisebenze ngokwethu ngaphambi kokuba sisebenze ekufundiseni abantwana bethu uqeqesho, ukuzihlonela kunye nokuhlonipha abanye abantu. 

Injongo yethu kwinkqubo yokuqeqesha abantwana bethu kukufundisa abantwana bethu indlela yokuphuhlisa ulawulo lwangaphakathi.  Sifuna ukuba bakhule bakwazi kungekuphela nje ukuqonda ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo, kodwa bazi indlela yokubonisa indlela yokuziphatha kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezinomdla kubo kwaye zingachaphazeli kakubi abanye.  Ndicinga ukuba kufuneka sijonge le nkqubo yokuqeqesha abantwana kwinqanaba elibanzi. 

Ngokwenene, uqeqesho luyisiseko sokukhulisa umntwana.  Inkqubo yentlalo lilitye lembombo lokuba sinalo uluntu olusebenzayo okanye olungasebenziyo.  Siye sahlala kwaye siye sachitha ixesha elithile kwimbopheleleko yethu yokunyamekela abantwana bethu.  Sibambeke kakhulu kwiziphazamiso kunye neentsomi zendlela esifanele sikhulise ngayo abantwana bethu, kangangokuba abantwana abaninzi bayazikhulisa ngokwabo.  Abantwana abaninzi bakhuliswa ezitratweni.  Abantwana abaninzi bakhuliswa ngootitshala, abanonopheli, abagcini beethala leencwadi, abasebenzi bolutsha, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, abazali abakhulisa abantwana, okanye inkqubo yezobulungisa yolwaphulo-mthetho.  Makhe ndiqale ndithethe ngenani labantwana kweli lizwe, elinye lawona mazwe atyebileyo ehlabathini angenamakhaya nabangenabazali.  Le nto engqondweni yam nasentliziyweni yam lulwaphulo-mthetho.  Ivakalelwa ngathi “ulwaphulo-mthetho oluchasene nabantwana kunye neentsapho”.  Akukho sizathu sokunqongophala kwezibonelelo zeentsapho kwilizwe lethu “elikhulu”.  Singalindela njani ukuba sibe neentsapho ezininzi kangaka ezingasebenziyo?  Singalindela njani ukunyusa inqanaba lemveliso phakathi kwabemi bethu bexesha elizayo kunye nabemi bangoku, ukuba asixhasi umgangatho wobomi kwiintsapho?  Ukuze iintsapho zenze umsebenzi wazo wokukhulisa abantwana abapheleleyo, abasempilweni nababonwabileyo abaya kuba negalelo elihle eluntwini, kufuneka sizibophelele ekwenzeni oku kulandelayo:

• Vumela imfundo yabazali iqale kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi.
• Ukufikelela ngakumbi kwiikhosi zemfundo yabazali eziyinxalenye yeNkqubo yeSizwe yeMfundo yabazali abaCwangcisiweyo.
• Nika ikhefu lerhafu kubo bonke abazali abathatha izifundo zemfundo yabazali.
• Nika ikhefu lerhafu kubo bonke abazali abaya kwiinkomfa zabazali kunye nokuvolontiya esikolweni sabantwana babo.
• Nika abazali ikhefu lokuhlawula umvuzo kubazali ukuba bahlale ekhaya iminyaka emibini yoku-1 yobomi bomntwana wabo. Umama okanye utata banokutshintsha ukuba bafuna ukutshintshana.
• Izindlu ezifikelelekayo kunye nezindlu zikarhulumente eziza kubamba usapho olungenamakhaya ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-2. Emva koko, ezi ntsapho kufuneka zibe nethuba lokuthenga.
• Ukubonelela ngeenkqubo zomsebenzi kubantu abangenamakhaya ukuze bafumane umsebenzi ngaphambi kokuba bashiye inkqubo yezindlu.
• Urhulumente kunye namashishini abucala basebenzisana ukubonelela ngamathuba engqesho kubazali abafuna imisebenzi.
• Iinkqubo zeSizwe zasimahla zabaNtwana abaQalayo
• Iinkqubo zeenkonzo ezininzi kwiikhampasi zezikolo eziza kubonelela ngezixhobo zempilo kunye nentlalontle kwiintsapho.
• Ukuhlengahlengisa inkqubo yesikolo ukuze ijolise ekukhuleni kwangempela kunye neengcamango zophuhliso lobuntwana bokuqala, ubuntwana obuphakathi kunye nokufikisa.
• Cwangcisa iishedyuli zexesha leenkqubo zethu zesikolo ukuze abantwana babe nendawo ekhuselekileyo yokuhlala kwaye bafumane imisebenzi yezifundo kunye nemisebenzi yangaphandle emva kwenkqubo yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla. 

Xa sithatha inxaxheba ngakumbi kwiinkqubo ekufuneka zisixhase ekuhlaleni abantwana bethu, iintsapho ziya kuba nethuba elingcono lokukhulisa abantwana abazithembayo nabahloniphekileyo. 

Lo nguNiki kunye nenja yakhe uTinkerbell ngolonwabo olupheleleyo kunye nolonwabo.  Ndicinga ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bakhule bejikeleze izilwanyana.  Yinxalenye yenkqubo yoluntu.  Inceda ukuqinisa uthando, ukuthembana kunye nentlonipho.

Isahluko sesihlanu Ukucamngca

Ukuzivocavoca: Chaza umahluko kwinjongo yesohlwayo ngokuchasene nenjongo yoqeqesho xa unxibelelana nabantwana.

Injongo yesohlwayo:	Injongo yoqeqesho:

Ukuzivocavoca: Ziziphi iindlela zoqeqesho oza kuzisebenzisa ukuze ukhokele nokukhulisa umntwana wakho?