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Indima yam njengomntwana wam wasemhlabeni

Isikhokelo soMoya”!

Isahluko 2

Abantwana sesona sipho sikhulu kuluntu.

Namhlanje ndiza kwabelana ngesicatshulwa seSahluko 2 sencwadi yam- “Ukwamkela isipho sokuba ngumzali: Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obunothando nabantwana bakho”.

Iyafumaneka: IAmazon kunye neBarnes kunye neNoble kunye neXlibris.

Le yinkcazo nje yesahluko!

Isahluko sesibini

Isikhokelo soMoya- Umthandazo wabazali-

“Ubukrelekrele kunye nobuhle bokuba ungubani ukhanyisa amasango oluntu lwethu.  Ngamana ungahlala ndisisibane esikhokelayo kwisango lentliziyo yakho. “

chrum kwik

Ndiyaqonda ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba ndinoxanduva lokuba ‘sisikhokelo soMoya’ sobomi bakho.

Icaphula: 

U-Anne Morriss wakha wathi:

“I-irony yokuzibophelela kukuba ikhulula ngokunzulu – emsebenzini, ekudlaleni, naseluthandweni.” (Le yinxalenye yesicatshulwa esivela kwi “Indlela endiyibona ngayo # 76”, Starbucks Coffee)

Kahil Gibran wakha wathi:

“Abantwana bakho abayi kuba ngabantwana bakho.  Bangoonyana neentombi zobomi.

Umbuzo:

Ndithetha ukuthini igama elithi “isikhokelo somoya”?

      Ndiyaqonda ukuba njengabazali “sizikhokelo zomoya” kubantwana bethu.  Ndithetha ukuthini igama elithi “isikhokelo somoya”?  Ewe, njengeengcali ezininzi zefilosofi kunye neengcali ngaphambi kwam, ndiyaqonda ukuba ekugqibeleni abantwana bethu abangowethu, kodwa ngokwabo kunye nendalo iphela abaye bakhonza kuyo kwaye bakhonze.  Asikwazi ukuthatha uxanduva lwabantwana bethu.  Asikwazi ukunyanzelisa oko sivakalelwa kukuba sisini sabo okanye ikamva labo.  Siqala olu lwalamano kunye nabo ngelixa behlala esibelekweni.  Ngeli xesha siqala ukuqonda ezinye zezinto eziphilayo.  Kubalulekile ukuba unxibelelane kakhulu nabo. 

       Ndiyakhumbula xa ndandithwele intombi yam kwaye ndaqala ukuqonda into ayithandayo kunye nento engahlali kakuhle kuye.  Wayesebenza kakhulu ngokomzimba, ngakumbi ebusuku, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kwakubonakala ngathi unamandla angapheliyo.  Wayesoloko ecinga ukuba wayekwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwaye kufuneka enze umthambo.  Wayehlala eguquguquka kwaye eguquguquka ehlotyeni.   Kwafuneka ndihlikihle isisu sam kwaye ndicule ngobunono ukuze ndimthomalalise. Ngethuba ndikhulelwe, ndandifundisa i-kindergarten kwaye uNiki, usana lwam esibelekweni, wazama ukuthatha inxaxheba kuyo yonke imisebenzi.  Wayesabela kwizenzo zabantwana kunye namazwi abo.  Abantwana eklasini babekuthanda ukuthetha naye.  Ndandisazi ukuba lo mntwana wayeza kusebenza kakhulu ngokwasemzimbeni, ahlale kakhulu, acinge kakhulu, kwaye anxibelelene ngokunzulu ngokomoya kwindalo. 

        Kwiminyaka engama-28 kamva, ndimbonile uNiki njengomdlali ophezulu, umnxibelelanisi omkhulu, isithethi esidlangalaleni, imbongi, umbhali wesikrini, kunye nomphenduli wokuqala enkonzweni yoluntu, kwaye uphethe intlonipho enzulu kubudlelwane phakathi kwe “Umoya omkhulu” kunye nobungangamsha bendalo.  Umiliselwe ngokunzulu ekuchongeni ilifa lakhe kwaye uvakalisa imbeko kuyo ngokudanisa kunye nokubetha amagubu.  Njengomntwana, wayeza kuphuma aye ngasemva kwendlu yethu kwaye ngelixa abanye abantwana bedlala ngoonodoli, uNiki wayeza kugrumba izinto zakudala okanye akhe iindawo ezingcwele ezincinci ukuhlonipha “uMoya omkhulu” kunye nomnombo wakhe wamaNavajo.  Andizange ndiyiqonde into ayenzayo, kodwa ndandisazi ukuba le yayingamava obuqu anzulu abalulekileyo kwaye angcwele kuye. 

Ndivakalelwa kukuba sinembopheleleko yokubukela abantwana bethu, ukubaphulaphula, nokuthetha nabo, kungekhona kubo.  Ifomathi yonxibelelwano eyamkelekileyo necacileyo esiyiphuhlisayo nabantwana bethu iya kwenza wonke umahluko kwihlabathi kwinto esinayo njengesiseko sokwakha ubudlelwane obusebenzayo, ngokuchasene nokungasebenzi kakuhle, nabantwana bethu.  Ihlabathi liya kungenela kwaye lizame ukuthatha indawo ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka.  Ukuba sifuna ukuba “ngabakhokeli bomoya kubantwana bethu, kufuneka sisebenze ngenkuthalo nangokuzibophelela okukhulu ekulondolozeni ubuntwana babo.  Senza uphawu lwethu olukhulu ebuntwaneni babo.  Ukufikisa kuya kulandela ukuza njengenkanyamba okanye inkanyamba eyiyo.  Ukuba sibambe ingqiqo yethu kwaye siqinile kulwalamano lwethu nabo, siya kusinda kwisaqhwithi, kwaye  baya kuphuma bephumelela. 

Esi sahluko sibaluleke kakhulu kule ncwadi kangangokuba kuya kufuneka ndibelane nawe kancinci kwixa elizayo.  Ndiyathemba ukuba uza kuqwalasela ukuthenga le ncwadi ukuze sikwazi ukubandakanyeka kwiincoko kwaye mhlawumbi njengeqela labazali kunye nabakhathaleli babantwana sinokuxhasana kunye nentlalo-ntle yabantwana bethu.