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Namhlanje ndiza kwabelana ngesicatshulwa seSahluko seshumi sencwadi yam- “Ukwamkela isipho sokuba ngumzali: Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obunothando nabantwana bakho”.

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“Ukufundisa i-preschool yayiyinto endiyithandayo kwaye iseyeyona nto ndiyithandayo.  Ndiyathemba ukuba ndibonise intombi yam ukuba ndisebenzele ukufezekisa kungekuphela nje konke amandla am, kodwa ukuba ndiphendule “umnxeba wam wekamva”. “Kubalulekile ukuba sibe ngumzekelo kubantwana bethu

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Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndinoxanduva lokuba yiyo yonke into endinokuba yiyo, ukuze wazi ukuba ndilindele ukuba wenze okufanayo.

Iingcaphuno: UBertrand Russell wakha wathi: “Ulonwabo olwanelisayo ngokwenene luhamba kunye nokusetyenziswa ngokupheleleyo kwamandla ethu kunye nokuqonda okupheleleyo kwehlabathi esiphila kulo.” Goethe wakha wathi: “Naphi na apho umntu anokujika khona, nantoni na umntu anokuyenza, uya kuhlala egqiba ngokubuyela kwindlela indalo emmisele yona.” U-Anne Frank wakha wathi: “Abazali banokunika iingcebiso ezilungileyo kuphela okanye bababeke kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo, kodwa ukwakheka kokugqibela komlingiswa womntu kusezandleni zabo.”

Umbuzo:

Ndingambonisa njani umntwana wam ukuba ndivakalelwa kukuba ndifanelekile okona kulungileyo ebomini, ukuba ndiyathanda kwaye ndizihlonela, ukuba ndiyakwazi ukubonisa amathuba angenamda ebomini bam, kwaye ke ndilindele okufanayo kubo?

Ndicinga ukuba impendulo yalo mbuzo ixhomekeke ekubeni kutheni ndibhala le ncwadi.  Kangangeminyaka ndithembise kwaye ndacelwa ukuba ndibhale malunga nento endiyithandayo “ngabantwana”.  Mna nodadewethu uPatti siye saba neengxoxo ezininzi malunga nokuthatha ulawulo lobomi bethu kunye nokuphuma elukholweni ukuphendula “umnxeba wethu wekamva”.  Wonke umntu osapho lwethu uye walandela indlela yabazali bethu yokukhonza abanye.  Abathathu bethu bakwimfundo kwaye omnye wethu usebenza kukhathalelo lwempilo lukazwelonke nakwamanye amazwe.  Konke oku kuxhomekeke ekusebenzeni ekuzameni ukuguqula ubomi babanye ukuqinisekisa ukuba banokufikelela kubomi obupheleleyo nobunenjongo.  Njengabazali sonke kuye kwafuneka senze oko kunokubonakala ngathi yimibingelelo, kodwa ekugqibeleni, uMoya oMkhulu uhlala ubonakala esenza indlela yokugcina isithembiso sakhe kuthi.  UMoya omkhulu usithumela apha ukuze sifezekise injongo yethu, kwaye asiyi kushiya lo mmandla de umsebenzi wethu ugqitywe.  Ngoko ke, kufuneka siqhubele phambili ebomini bethu kwaye sizimisele ukufuna iindlela kunye namathuba okuba sibe yiyo yonke into esinokuyenza.  

Mna nodadewethu uPatti siphantsi kombono wokuba abantwana bethu balinde ukubona ukuba siza kude kangakanani.  Baye basibona siphumelela kwimizamo yethu yobungcali, kodwa abazange basibone siphuma ebhokisini kwaye sizame into engaqhelekanga ixesha elide.  Sasidla ngokuphupha ezona zimvo zintle kwaye sizamile ukubonisa ezinye zazo.  Ngandlela-thile, siyaphazamisa ngokuvumela imisebenzi yethu ithathe indawo.  Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba esi sisizathu sokuphepha ukungaphumeleli.  Owu Thixo wam, ngaba ngokwenene oku kuswela ukholo kwavela kum?  Ndingayixhasa njani iphupha lomntwana wam kunye nomnxeba wekamva ukuba andikholelwa kwaye ndifezekise eyam?  Ndingalindela njani ukuba umntwana wam azithembe kwaye azithembe ukuba andizami izinto ezintsha nezingafaniyo? UPatti uthe sikhululekile kakhulu, kwaye asifuni ukuthatha umngcipheko ngemvakalelo yethu yokhuseleko lobuxoki.  Ndicinga ukuba sinokwenza ngaphezulu kwento enye ngexesha.  Into ephambili kukulinganisela kwakhona.  Kufuneka ubeke iinjongo zakho kwindawo yokuqala.  Kufuneka ubeke umsebenzi wakho okanye “umsebenzi” kwimbono.  Ndisikelelekile, hayi ngenxa yokuba ndiwuthanda ngokukodwa “umsebenzi” wam, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba ndenza kanye le nto “uMoya Omkhulu” afuna ndiyenze ngokubhekiselele “kwifowuni yam yesiphelo”.  Ndiyazi ukuba ndibizwa ukuba ndenze okungaphezulu kwento endiyenzayo.  IBhayibhile ithi: “Okuninzi, kulindeleke okuninzi.”  Andifuni ukuba umntwana wam abe ngomnye wabo babizwa ngokuba “ngabaphumeleleyo”. Ndifuna nje ukuba abe yiyo yonke into ayilelwe ukuba ibe yiyo kwaye abe negalelo kwinto abizelwe ukuba ayenze kwihlabathi.

Kubonakala ngathi ukuba siphila kwindawo engcwele yenjongo, siya kufumanisa izinto ezintsha ngathi kunye nezipho zethu.  Sinokukhetha ukungazihoyi ezo zipho, okanye sinokukhetha ukuzixhaphaza.  Abantwana bethu kufuneka sibe ngumzekelo wokubamba loo maxesha omceli mngeni kwaye siwaguqule abe ngamathuba okubonisa ubukrelekrele bethu kunye nobuchule.  Sibeka ivili ekuhambeni.  Siphakamisa ibha yento enokwenziwa ngokusebenza nzima kunye nokuzimisela.  Kufuneka sibone ukuba siphila ubomi bethu ngehlombe kunye namandla.  Oku akuthethi ukuba siphila kwihlabathi lamaphupha azo zonke izinto eziphakamileyo kwaye akukho zisezantsi, kodwa kuthetha ukuba sinokuwasebenzisa amathuba okuzicelela umngeni kwaye sikhuphisane nathi ukuze sizibonakalise ukuba “siyaphila” kwaye siphila ubomi ngokupheleleyo!

Isahluko seshumi Ukucamngca

Ukuzivocavoca: Chaza izinto ebomini bakho ezinokuthi zikuthintele ekubeni yiyo yonke into onokukwazi ukuba yiyo. Chaza into onokuyenza ukuze ukhuphe ubunzima obufileyo bezinto ezikuthintela ekupheleleni amandla akho apheleleyo.

Izinto ezindibambelelayo:	Iindlela zokukhupha ubunzima obufileyo:

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