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Inqaku elikhawulezayo: Ukungcangcazela kwethu kucinyiwe kwaye kuchaphazela abantwana bethu

Abantwana sesona sipho sikhulu kuluntu.

Ndifuna nje ukungena kwaye ndabelane ngoqwalaselo endinalo ngelixa ndibukela abantwana ekhaya nangaphandle kwehlabathi.  Kuninzi okwenzekayo kweli hlabathi linesiphithiphithi kangangokuba kunzima ukuba akunakwenzeka ukubakhusela kulo lonke uhlaselo olubi nolunobundlongondlongo oluthintela indlela yethu yokuphila eqhelekileyo okanye ubuncinci yokuhamba.  Ukungcangcazela ngokomoya kobuntu bethu kuye kwabuyela kwinqanaba elisezantsi kangangokuba abantwana, abakwindalo yabo kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokungcangcazela kubantu abadala, bahamba emanzini okuxhalabisa, uloyiko, unxunguphalo, kunye nemvakalelo yokushiywa ngokweemvakalelo. 

Kufuneka sikhusele intlungu yabo ngemvakalelo yokhuseleko kunye nokuthantamisa.  Kubalulekile ukuba sisondele kubo. I-huggs kunye ne-kiss kunye nexesha le-cuddle liyimfuneko!  Ngoku kunanini na ngaphambili, kufuneka sifumane iindlela zokutshintsha indlela apho uluntu lwethu luya khona.  Siza kuphendula ngento eyenzekayo kubantwana bethu.  Kukho imikhosi emininzi esebenza ngokuchasene nathi engaphandle kolawulo lwethu, kodwa kwangaxeshanye sinamandla kunye namandla okukhusela abantwana bethu ngeendlela eziza kubanika umlinganiselo omkhulu wesikhokelo kunye nokukhusela.  Oku akufuneki kube nzima okanye kunzima.

1. Yenza amakhaya ethu abe yindawo ekhuselekileyo kwihlabathi ngokukhetha oko kuthethwa ngawo kwaye kuvunyelwe ukuba kungene kubomi bentsapho yethu. -Imithombo yeendaba, i-AI, abantu abangalunganga, njl. 
2. Ngononophelo kangangoko kunokwenzeka, yiba ngabom malunga nokuba abantwana bethu baya phi esikolweni kwaye yeyiphi imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo yekharityhulam abayenzayo kwaye ngubani ophembelela kwezo meko.  Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwethu kwezi meko kubalulekile.
3. Joyina amaqela anemibutho esebenzayo apho unokwabelana ngeenkxalabo zakho malunga nemicimbi yoluntu lwakho kunye nelizwe lakho.  Sinoxanduva njengabazali, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, usapho olwandisiweyo, ootitshala, kunye nabameli bokhathalelo lwempilo kwinkonzo yabantwana ukuba babe “ABENZI BOTSHINTSHO”!

Abantwana bethu bafanelwe lihlabathi eligcwele uthando kunye namathuba, apho banokubonakalisa ngokupheleleyo izipho abaze ukwabelana ngazo nehlabathi.  Eli hlabathi alikulungelanga oko beze kwabelana ngako kwaye ngelishwa, bafunda oku ukuba kuyinyani ngakumbi nangakumbi yonke imihla.  Kukho izitshixo zokuphilisa kuluntu lwethu-UTHANDO – akukho xesha lokuphulukana! Yiba ngumzali odaliweyo kwaye undinike isipho.  Iqela lethu linamandla ngaphaya komlinganiselo!