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I feel that this is one of the most important elements in creating a healthy modality in guiding children’s behavior.  I have no problem using the terminology “discipline” because I know that it comes from the root -disciple- someone who follows the lead and guidance of another.  That is what we as parents and caregivers are to our children.  We demonstrate for children that which we expect of them.  They are looking for our leadership-guidance- protection-compassion-and understanding.  We have the responsibility to do our “homework” and study the growth and development of our children as well as to observe and take notes as to what does and does not work with the temperament and character of our child.  We have to start out the way we want to end up!  If we actually engage in conversation with our children, along with guiding them as they navigate their life experiences and take into consideration where they are in their social emotional development, we will ultimately have a conducive and appropriate way of disciplining our child.

We have to be open and receptive to the “why” and “what for’s” that come up in their mind.  I know sometimes we don’t have time to engage at the moment, but it is loving and respectful to tell them you will circle back and sit and talk about it.  Then to build trust we have to circle back! Can you imagine the critical thinking skills we are teaching our children by sharing “why” and “what for” we are saying something, and the gift of discernment that is being practiced.  These are “teaching moments”!  It is most helpful if you have time to explain at the time the situation arises, but we are human, and life is real!  The goal is to have the tools and communication pathway that will safeguard our ability to always be open and receptive of our children from childhood through adulthood.  We are their moral compass, and we must realize as they grow and develop although they will make their own choices of how they conduct their life, they will always have the foundation we laid for them. 

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Remember-no two children are the same!!! Just another balancing act for the committed parent!