Heart4kidsadvocacyforum's Blog

As parents we work so hard to tune into the essence of who our child is.  We want to know how they feel and how they respond to the experiences that they encounter in their childhood.  It takes careful observation, genuine engagement, and loving and supportive communication.  We have to access these traits of who our child is so that we can guide them, protect them, and nurture their “true identity”.  This is not an identity we design or construct for them.  It does not always fit in the societal norms, but after all, we model and teach our children, that although they are in the world, they are not of this world.  Their spirit is their shield that stands before the world and any challenge or situation they might encounter.  We fortify in them with the concept they are in themselves “enough”, “perfection”, and are meant to live a “purpose driven life” that they alone have command of. 

They must be taught that they have an inner voice which is their conscious that resides within them to guide their gift of “discernment”.  They must be taught that no one has the power to dictate who they are or to try to dress them in an identity that is not who they know themselves to be.  They are not a character in someone else story or a generalization from someone else’s life experience.  They are who they are, and they were created and designed in and with “pure love”.  We teach them that they are love and that they are loved-unconditionally and eternally by us their parents and their village.  They do not need other people’s validation or acceptance because they answer only to “Great Spirit”.  WE teach them about the fabric of what real love feels like and looks like so that they have a foundational base on which to love and be loved. 

I cannot begin to tell other parents how magical and unbelievable it is to be given the gift of parenthood, because it is different for every parent and might be in alignment with their own childhood experiences.  The grace in this is that each of us can chose to be by working on ourselves, the parent our child needs to be “Whole”, “Healthy”, and “Happy”.  It can be overwhelming to step out on faith and evaluate who we are being as a parent, but oh, what an amazing experience it can be once we figure out “who we are in our own divine identity”.

 I so invite you as parents and or perspective parents to read and engage in my book-

“Embracing the Gift of Parenthood-How to create a loving relationship with your child”. 

This gift of parenting is a lifetime commitment, and the journey can be life changing.